Posted by Amante_Velora on Sat 7 Jan 12, 5:52 PM to Amante_Velora's blog.
According to Mexican researchers, it lasts 4 years:
Researchers at National Autonomous University of Mexico claim, that every infatuation lasts no more than four years. According to the scientists, infatuation which resembles temporary madness is caused by the activation of specific chemical compounds in the brain. Even the deepest love will not be there anymore, when the “reserve” of these compounds runs out (in 4 years at most). Then passionate love becomes just emotional addiction or sexual dependence.
The scientists surveyed a large number of loving people and have also found, that love has all the characteristics of the obsessive-compulsive neurosis: when one is in love, they often lose sleep and appetite and can't think of anything else, but their beloved.
However, according to Italian researchers, it lasts just one year, and according to Frederic Beigbeder, it lasts three years.
If this is the case, how do people have relationships that last longer than 4 years?
| 7 Jan 12, 6:08 PM Souci_X UK(BA), 5 yrs   |
Our definitions of love are so small, and I do not agree with the research anyway. But to answer your question, routine, obligation, practicality, friendship, children etc etc etc | ||
| 7 Jan 12, 6:17 PM Shypeachybottom UK, 20 mths |
And because infatuation is not the same thing as love. Infatuation is more like lust, whereas love (in my opinion) is deeper, longer lasting and slower to really develop. So if you are lucky in a relationship, as infatuation/initial lust is waning, love is setting in. I should add that lust - unlikely infatuation - is something you can rekindle and keep alive if both partners work at it There's a somebody I'm longing to see, I hope that he turns out to be, someone to watch over me | ||
| 7 Jan 12, 6:18 PM Jacques_Pierre 2 yrs |
This. All of. regards Ch. eta according to mexican researchers the moon is made of green cheese. Edited 7 Jan 12, 6:19 PM by Jacques_Pierre | ||
| 7 Jan 12, 6:33 PM Phoenixub3 UK(W), 9 yrs |
LOVE & INFATUATION ARE NOT THE SAME !! I am amazed infatuation lasts that long. In this world of instant gratitification, it is rare to see true Love. With everyone so tuned to "Whats In It For Me" True love means to Give & Forgive" and not take & forget !! | ||
| 7 Jan 12, 6:36 PM syndeetoo UK(WC), 6 yrs |
Love is eternal, so love lasts for eternity. Pour encourager les autres | ||
| 7 Jan 12, 6:36 PM pixie15_CJ_s UK(EX), 7 yrs  |
maybe love is the first brick or the motar that holds a relationship together ... i still feel the flush when i see that look on CJs face.. is it love ? ... conection ... or just the fact that i know we still feel something strong between us . wht ever it is its still there as strong as ever and keeping a relationship growing after all these years xxx chaos mayhem and desaster......my work here is done | ||
| 7 Jan 12, 6:57 PM nicefeller UK(BA), 17 mths |
Well, THEY answered that question themselves, but I don't think they got it very right. It still amazes me we still only have one word for love. I love my wife, my mistress, my dog, my children, my car etc. I guess the subject here is the romantic and sexual stuff, but even here the "flavours" of love are very varied. To me it's the most fascinating subject there is! I kinda know where they're coming from with their sweeping statements, but I think they've put the cart before the horse a bit ... Personally I fall in love at the drop of a hat - can't seem to help myself, nor can I help wearing my heart on my sleeve. It seems to me that people "resonate" with each other at different levels. I'm just (very sadly) coming out of a relationship with a (gorgeous) scorpio lady. She operates naturally from a very sexual place, very deep and loving - but very different from my previous pash, a sagittarian lady, very bright vibe, and though partly sexual the resonance was at a very different frequency. I think your study probably refers to relationships based mostly on sexual attraction (my little scorp gets herself into repeated circles of trouble with that one) but clearly it's not enough to describe those 50 year marriages that still occasionally happen! My sister's a good case in point! She's been with her (now) hubby since they were about 15 (they're both in their 60s now) and I can vouch for how hot they were in the beginning years! But they had children, are of a similar hard working nature, and have forged a partnership that I know will serve them through this life. Are they still in love? Oh yeah! I suspect the sexual attraction comes and goes - but they'd kill for each other! (No, police-bot - they haven't killed anybody ...) I cry real tears of happiness (and jealousy!) for them sometimes ... Ah - sweet mystery of life, eh!! Nice blog Amante - keep up the good work! XXX | ||
| 7 Jan 12, 6:59 PM Amante_Velora UK(SW), 22 mths  |
I have been in love three times in my life (and my stalker isn't one of them). Each relationship lasted no more than three years before things started to go wrong. Hmmm. Maybe I've never been in love after all. ***Disclaimer: I accept no liability for the content of this post, or for the consequences of any misconstruction taken on the basis of the information provided, unless that information is subsequently confirmed in writing. Please do not ask for credit as a punch in the mouth will often offend*** | ||
| 7 Jan 12, 7:01 PM Ima_Kant UK(PO), 3 yrs |
Thats rubbish... true love is eternal... I can never envision a time when I won't love myself! | ||
| 7 Jan 12, 7:10 PM geoff917 UK(CO), 3 yrs |
Trust you,Jules!! "In order to finish first, you must first finish".....Roger Penske |
