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| Wed 4 Jan 12, 6:31 PM CalOrJack 5 mths  |
Hi everyone I hope you can help me. I have always had a strong hidden submissive side that I have wanted to show but never have. The background I am from and the people I grew up with ade it unacceptable as the male sould be strong and manly, you know what I mean.... Over the last few years as I have come across things on the web like we all do, I have been slowly but surely attracted to being a sub. I decided I wanted to go ahead and follow my urges and to seek a Domme. I started joining websites like this one to try and find a Domme that would be willing to introduce me to the lifestyle of D/s but sadly I have found it very hard to. I have communicated with several and never managed to meet any of them, this week I had finally thought I would get my wish, when a Domme from this site(Who will remain unamed) asked me to meet her this weekend. I was so excited and looking forward to it until like with all the others she last night asked this question... "How would you like to serve me?". I answered truthfully and this is what I said "Yes M... Your first question is hard for me to answer and I get quite nervous thinking about it. It really is new to me and I want to please you. I wish for you to show me new things and expand my submissivness. I would like to please you with my obedient behaviour. I want to be loyal to you and honest at all times. I want you to own parts of me that no one else has ever seen. And for me to be eternaly grateful. Sorry if I was not specific enough." Today after obeying her all day at work with smalls tasks I arrived home to find out she had cancelled on me via a memo on this site. It upset me a little and I felt it was unfair. It seems as if I don't know how I wish to serve then Dommes do not want to bother with me. I just want to ask fellow subs, how did you get started and how did you learn "How you wished to serve?" And could anyone provide me with a link to a site where different types of servitude is explained so maybe I can determine if I would fit one. Thank you... | |||
| 4 Jan 12, 6:40 PM Souci_X UK(BA), 5 yrs  |
I think it may be different across the gender divides but if a bloke had asked me that I would have rolled my eyes and it probably would not have got past a cup of coffee or pint I wouldn't take it too hard to be honest. I still think that going out and meeting people at munches etc is the best way to go when you are new to it all, it helps take the edge off I think. Edited 4 Jan 12, 6:41 PM by Souci_X | |||
| 4 Jan 12, 6:43 PM fellatrix UK, 2 yrs |
Can't really help, but I think it's rather unrealistic of a domme to expect you to know exactly how you want to serve when you've made it clear that you are new to it all. And personally I wouldn't even be sure I wanted to serve someone before I'd actually met them. Good luck smartarse | |||
| 4 Jan 12, 6:48 PM Perplexion 13 mths |
The longer things go on online, the less likely real-life is about to happen. Get to a Munch, meet PEOPLE, make friends .... | |||
| 4 Jan 12, 7:10 PM dougie159  UK(KA), 7 yrs   |
Err, kinda go along with this. a) a Domme should not expect a 'newbie' to 'know' what he wants as he is in-experienced and trying to find his feet b) i tend to think that we do not/or should not give our submission to 'anyone', it is one of the few gifts we can give & they have to earn it c) against you...maybe you are trying to hard by your message to her. As others have said, get out there......and know it can take years...sorry, but that is reality. BUT, don't give up, keep trying & follow your dream. Hopefully it can come true. 178 Don't knock down fences until you know why they were put up. | |||
| 4 Jan 12, 7:12 PM Perplexion 13 mths |
If you are going to get out on the scene then you need to stop writing stuff about people on here. Even when we're not named, it's a bit naff. You can edit your posts and I'll remove this. Start again. | |||
| 4 Jan 12, 7:19 PM NANA777 UK(SW), 3 yrs |
Isn't it just your assumption? Did she clearly said that? If she didn't mention the reason like that, the reason of cancelling on you might be anything... | |||
| 4 Jan 12, 7:23 PM Sorceror UK(HU), 9 yrs |
If you're internet dating women will blow you out on a regular basis - vanilla or kink. Learn to handle it or get out of the jungle. That's just the way it is... S.x. | |||
| 4 Jan 12, 7:38 PM Ama_Sidero UK(GU), 7 yrs      |
There are a couple different versions of this, but most are pretty much the same. The page is a horrendous purple on black, but the top also has some interesting information on subspace levels. @Play_Space - Next party is Friday, January 6, 2012 and the first Friday of every month! Edited 4 Jan 12, 7:39 PM by Ama_Sidero | |||
| 4 Jan 12, 7:43 PM Souci_X UK(BA), 5 yrs |
That may be because the answer itself was a little squirmy rather than the fact that you are new and didn't know how to answer it. | |||
| 4 Jan 12, 7:49 PM tanken UK(NR), 2 yrs |
I would just move on. It is possible you just weren't suited to each other. She may turn you down today. You may turn a domme down tomorrow. Dating is never that straightforward anyway in in walk of life.
Happiness is a warm bum |
