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| Mon 2 Jan 12, 12:54 PM KinkyinCov UK(CV), 12 mths  |
Hi, A girlfriend and I are thinking of trying wax play as part of our relationship can anyone give any pointers what to do or what not to do as neither of us really want to get burnt or marked from it permanently. Any help gratefully received. Thanks. | ||
| 2 Jan 12, 12:59 PM PeterPan1972 UK, 8 yrs  |
Have a look at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wax_play The fact that we live at the bottom of a deep gravity well, on the surface of a gas covered planet going, at 66,000 miles an hour, around a nuclear fireball 90 million miles away and think this to be normal is obviously some indication of how skewed our perspective tends to be. | ||
| 2 Jan 12, 1:05 PM Platinum UK(W), 9 yrs |
A good previous thread on this subject to get you started P | ||
| 2 Jan 12, 1:18 PM Belasarius UK(M), 8 yrs      |
Candle choice is pretty important. Can I suggest Spar's emergency candles. In this case cheap is good. They melt at a nice low temperature and, as you gain confidence, you will use them closer and closer to even the most intimate areas without ill effect. I blogged about a session here: http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/236421/ My goal - to save women from nature (Dior) | ||
| 2 Jan 12, 1:58 PM little_e UK(BS), 4 yrs |
I do highly recommend ASDA's vanilla scented wax-filled glasses. They're about £4 each, lots in a glass and quite a low melting temperature, the mark they leave tends to last a few hours and be no more than a faint pink spot. I've been doing wax play for as long as I've been into BDSM, I know from experience that these are one of the nicest ones to use to make it pleasant rather than painful. Also, make sure you use something to lubricant the skin (I personally use baby oil, but different people use different things so it's really a matter of preference) so that removing the wax isn't difficult afterwards.
In regards to avoiding marks and things, stay away from beeswax and tallow as they will stick and burn you badly (again, experience, my Daddy is a beekeeper! Another tip I use is to test the candle on the inside of my arm prior to introducing them to a session. Light the candle and allow it to melt enough to form a small pool of wax below the flame. When it's ready, take hold of the candle and drip it carefully along the inside of your wrist. The skin here is very sensitive and will give you a good indication of how hot the candle might be. If it burns like buggery, blow it out and only use it setting the dinner table. If it's warm, or slightly hotter, but bearable and even enjoyable..you have yourself a good candle. Good luck, and happy adventuring! Elena x | ||
| 2 Jan 12, 5:25 PM xAdamx  UK(SE), 9 yrs |
Lay the girlfriend down..having her naked helps..ruins clothes otherwise..start with cheap white candles and drizzel slowly from a high postion say 6 feet over the torso..not the face okay..yes I know we don't have to say that..but you would be surprised at the amount of people who say..omg I didn't think of that... Bake on gas mark 7 until golden brown. | ||
| 2 Jan 12, 6:38 PM Meistre UK(NR), 2 yrs |
Good advisee on the candles, couple of extra tips I heard a friend mention who's big on wax play... 1) Keep a wet t-towel close to hand to douse the candles quickly if needed. 2) Safety first, you are put live fire in a room full of materials that burn quite easily. Oddly an extinguisher to hand might be an idea. 3) Get and use a little gas ring lighter commonly found in household stores. Easier to use and safer than matches.
4) Keep all candles, lighter and other play paraphernalia on a large tray...lit candles sitting on the bed isn't the best of ideas 5) Use a large throw-away sheet on the bed, she'll not be overly impressed having to remove wax from her favourite bed linen. 6) If you're going to use rope, be a sensible rigger and make sure you have your emergency knife to hand. 7) Try blind-folds as well....her not you. Adds to the play Enjoy ... Omnia vincit amor | ||
| 2 Jan 12, 8:11 PM FlashHarry UK(S), 3 yrs |
Amazing. It's probably best if you just heat up a stone in the microwave and use that. Much safer. Remember not to eat it though. | ||
| 2 Jan 12, 8:14 PM reservoir_bunny UK, 15 mths |
A flogger usually works better than baby oil to remove candle wax from the skin
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| 2 Jan 12, 8:35 PM Russetkate 6 mths |
If she's not shaved I suggest keeping the wax away from her pubic hair. Picking out lumps of wax from pubic hair is slow (if enjoyably painful)process. | ||
| 2 Jan 12, 10:16 PM little_e UK(BS), 4 yrs |
Probably so.. but knowing what an awkward aim my other half has, baby oil saves time  Elena x
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