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| Fri 30 Dec 11, 3:36 PM robsleaze 5 mths  |
i hope i am about to become the property of a Master. If so then i will attend Him once or twice a week to be fucked, caned, tied up etc but at other times we will be apart. Any advice on what we can do to heighten the sense of ownership. Already i need to ask permission before i wank, and obviously a chastity device is a possibility, but any other good suggestions? i dont suppose He will want me txting Him every 5 minutes for permission to do basic stuff! But there must be some obvious things i am missing. (Not that he will necessarily implement any suggestions i make but i thought it would be good to offer.) Finally, any good stuff to read on ownership or sites to visit? Thanks. | |
| 30 Dec 11, 6:26 PM Ms_Valentine UK, 9 yrs  |
As I have understood it, ownership is a state of being, one is either owned or not. If you are to be owned by a Master, the your sense of ownership should be there by virtue of that relationship. It seems what you asking is that others give you their take on how they heighten the feeling of being owned in the slave/pet. As you rightly say, your potential Master will be the best placed to make the rules he wants you to live under. I doubt other people will be able to understand exactly what your needs are in this respect to think up something you or your Master have not thought of before. The kinds of things people will suggest could be rules, restrictions and rituals which enhance 'ownership' as you seek or 'submission' in a non ownership relationship. Being apart, more than you are together means you may not feel strength and potency of your Master's dominance in the same way as you would if you lived together. So, the chastity device is a good start, as it will impose a physical and enduring sign of your submission. Some people have things like contracts, handbooks of rules, clothing restrictions, bedtime curfews, food restrictions, alcohol limits, exercise regimes, kneeling endurance rules, extended butt plug wearing and oh, many more things, so good luck and best wishes with it all. Dominant partner in an FLR with @paulss | |
| 30 Dec 11, 8:54 PM canupleaseme UK(S), 3 yrs |
At the start when we couldnt be together that often we found loads of little things to ensure we had a constant connection. Seeing as you dont have a willy :P some of these won't work but he had to wear a pink bow tied round his cock and balls at all times, at night we had webcam on somtimes all night so I could lways see him and what he was upto. We had half an hour dedicated each night to him training himself with butt-plugs. It's way to personal to be able to give you a list of things you will find things that work for you. My biggest advice would be to keep it real. I made myself really pissed off making plans that just weren't realistic and we both felt a disapointed if we couldn't maintain things we planned out. Also if he felt there was something that helped him feel in his place that I hadn't already ordered he would kneel and ask for permission to ........ So I got a good idea of what he needed to feel close to me I hope it works out for you how exciting :D Kink friendly Beauty therapist all enquiries welcome | |
| 30 Dec 11, 10:06 PM Souci_X UK(BA), 5 yrs |
The Op does have a willy, at least that is my assumption anyways. I agree with little reminders being a nice idea, also making time for each other when you are apart, so maybe a webcam date or whatever when you can gussy yourself up etc. Ok not texting every 5 mins but frequent texts do help make things a little more personal. I used to like the into the night phone calls. As you say chastity and wanking is good, but if he has little tasks, measurable and not will help with your sense of ownerwhip and connection. | |
| 30 Dec 11, 10:56 PM Belasarius UK(M), 8 yrs      |
We aren't together 24/7 but we find it helps to have certain patterns or rituals, some when we meet and others when we are apart. You and your owner/ master will probably develop your own, in time. It's what works for you - rather than copying someone elses's - that will make them meaningful for you. You might wear a symbolic item - underwear, toy, or even jewellery that will act as a prompt or reminder. An alarm on your phones that beeps at a set time each day? A text sent first and last thing so he knows you are thinking of him? Good luck with whatever you develop that suits. My goal - to save women from nature (Dior) | |
| 31 Dec 11, 12:13 AM robsleaze 5 mths |
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| 31 Dec 11, 1:36 AM totallycoverme UK(M), 4 yrs |
I think that being away from the one who owns you at random intervals is constructive if you enjoy things like protocol and ritual. I have always found the idea of calling someone Master all the time, avoiding eye contact all of the time and always speaking and acting as if in scene mode all the time very appealing. When you live with someone, I think it's very much warts and all (sometimes it's high protocol, sometimes it's pjs and tele) whereas when you see someone at intervals, you could have a lot of fun with regards to protocol and a sense of occaision.
I wouldn't swap my full time lifestyle for anything but I think there is a lot of fun to be had and exciting tension to be built up when you're not with each others all the time...tis definately something that can be embraced rather than worried about It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice | |
| 31 Dec 11, 6:12 AM slavedave22 UK(B), 6 yrs |
I too will soon be starting out on a similar journey as a slave leading to full ownership, this is,nt somthing i choose,like being gay i guess you have no choice, simply i DO have the choice to offer myself to full ownership or not, of course at first it wont be live in and therefore the times i spend apart from my "owner" whilst controled lightly (cb) i can,t do "remote" control, my potential owner knows this, and accepts that "not being there" means i have to make decisions for myself, handle stuff going on around me so restrictions are not practical
having said that dont doubt for one minute that when in the presence of my owner every breath i draw will be only because she allows it,and one day that will be how my life will be full time roll on that day no animals or trees were harmed in sending this however several million electrons were aggitated | |
| 31 Dec 11, 8:17 AM slaveish UK(NE), 9 yrs |
When my Master first owned me he ordered that i was to text him every morning, lunchtime and every evening just to say hello and to make sure he was in my thoughts.
That was ten years ago and I still do those texts plus Master and i text each other during the day.
I find that texts are a simple yet effective way to feel Masters control when Im not with him. Where my Master goes, i will follow, tho we will do so hand in hand. | |
| 31 Dec 11, 9:13 AM Belasarius UK(M), 8 yrs |
I agree. Our 24/3.5 arrangement means we rarely relax protocol in the way I used to in my 24/7 relationship, because we do have time off. My goal - to save women from nature (Dior) | |
| 31 Dec 11, 11:22 AM canupleaseme UK(S), 3 yrs |
My bad was quite drunk last night lol Kink friendly Beauty therapist all enquiries welcome |
