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| Pauls_babybeth |
on Wed 28 Dec 11, 4:35 PM to Pauls_babybeth's blog.
Love and the DaddyDom/ babygirl relationship
Intro Finding a Daddy isn't easy, and I expect there are many different rules and suggestions as how to go about getting one. Some will tell you always offer to suck, others be as extreme and dirty as possible & I talked to one online several times before he got the message whose opening chat message was “Look at you, so young little baby and willing to be abused.” That last one is certainly worth watching out for with its danger signals. If you like danger, great, but I know that I am already quite a vulnerable adult so I act on the side of caution, thanks. That might explain why it took three months between Daddy seeing my advert on FetLife and sending a memo, and our first date in September this year, since which we haven't been able to keep away from each other and already talk engagement, can't help having the wedding bells going through my head.
Daily Life For the most part, to vanilla friends and parents, we seem to just be a couple who loves cuddling, the hot and steaminess is gently brushed out of sight. Being someone who doesn't often feel sexual this can be a bit hard. He has a symbol that tells me to be big girl in public, holding his hand flat out, however I suspect the neighbours might have latched on this naughty little imp next door. But then, we all have naughty little secrets don't we? Some are really quite saucy, you just have to scratch beneath the surface. What can't be hidden so easily is how much we love each other. I think you would have to be incredibly absent minded to not notice that couple on the corner of the street in a deep embrace. They are the ones who are in love and like over their head.
Dating When dating for the first time with someone from the internet my advice is to go public. Meet in a bar or coffee shop rather than the backseat of the car, and find out as much as you can before you get there. I don't mean getting a private dick following the guy around, that would be ridiculous, but a few internet searches should tell you whether he's ever been in trouble, if you are lucky he even has a blog site and a Facebook account. If he won't add you on Facebook and has an account, you need to find out if there is something to hide. There are quite a lot of married men who go out looking for an affair with a baby girl, for me that's a no-no as I want someone who will be willing for a relationship. That's a word that scares the blokes, isn't it? After the research you can finally have a public meeting. If it goes well you might get a cuddle and kiss before going home, if both agree- it all has to be consensual. For our third date I made the wise move of introducing him to my parents and their neighbours at a barbecue, just to make sure that he also had their approval. It went so well that for the first time he came home with me, he wanted to do that on the first date but I wasn't sure. The next week he arranged for me to meet his mum and one of his sisters.
Limits and boundaries In Ageplay and Daddy/little girl relationships these are bloody important, not that they aren't everywhere else. You set them out from the star and make sure each party understands what they are and won't break them, or push them too hard until well in with safe words attached. I can't stress how important it is to stick to these at least at first. If you have ever expected to meet someone on the grounds of public only, and then they come right up to the bedroom without asking, then they aren't going to be respecting your limits that well either maybe.
Love And at last, love. A Daddy/daughter style love is a wonderful one, not only can it bridge the gaps and fix the boundaries created by pain and abuse, it can seriously heal. Here is the warm hand patting you on the back, or perhaps buttocks, the strong guy willing to stand beside you who really doesn't want you to be hurt in any way. Ageplay love rocks!
Edited Wed 28 Dec 11, 4:36 PM by Pauls_babybeth
| 28 Dec 11, 9:57 PM Susancrane UK(WF), 10 yrs |
I like your blog. It is interesting and informative to read for someone not in your particular kink. Wishing you good luck in your relationship, hope it is everything you want and has a good outcome. SusanCrane |
