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| 27 Dec 11, 2:55 PM Bubbles_2 UK(E), 6 yrs  |
Persoanlly, i think it's hot to be on a leash and only being allowed to respond with permission. Even better if one is blindfolded too! Of course, you can spend some time like that, then, perhaps after some play, relax the rules. Or vice versa. It's fun experimenting. Club Subversion Crossing the Rubicon FleursduMal bobette's Facebook Beginners Guide to BDSM | |
| 27 Dec 11, 2:59 PM othyim NL, 3 yrs |
As you know, especially cause you have never visited such an event, ALL men there, that even try to talk to female subs just have one goal, which has to be dealt with immediately. The need for that becomes even more obvious when we take into account that ALL female subs are delicate flowers that need to be protected indeed. Thank you so much for pointing that out. "Class is the impartial, consistent display of emotional integrity." | |
| 27 Dec 11, 3:11 PM DeCoverley UK(GL), 4 yrs |
Thanks fluffy and othyim, lots of sensible comments there (as usual  ) Part of the reason for my giving it some thought is that she's only very recently “come out” as a sub, even to herself really, and is excited by the idea of being shown off as my pet, being obviously sub in “public” etc. She's never done anything like this before.Your immediate response to this will be “Talk to her!” and of course I will, but ours is very much a part-time arrangement, due to personal circumstances, so there's less conversation between our occasional meetings than I'd like. I expect we'll just take it as it comes. | |
| 27 Dec 11, 3:12 PM syndeetoo UK(WC), 6 yrs |
If I had never been to a club I would have no hesitation in pitching in with sound advice. Double that urge if I had never had a bdsm relationship. High protocol clubs are a fantasy, protocol is more likely to occur between private parties at a party and is usually worked out in detail and pre planned. Most clubs are sausage rolls and get stuck in. (Unless you are going to a public club in which case substitute wanky men and get stuck in) Don't expect too much. In some cases don't expect heating. Clubs are pot luck, depends what the kit is like and who turns up. (For goodness sake don't assume people are the same as you. One wankerdom asked H once if it would be permissible for me to touch his sub as he was dealing with her on the St Andrew's cross. 'Why don't you ask her?' quoth H, 'she's standing right here' Wankerdom walked into the trap and asked me. I told him I'd rather eviscerate myself.) pip pip synd Pour encourager les autres Edited 27 Dec 11, 3:20 PM by syndeetoo | |
| 27 Dec 11, 5:00 PM hobbes1966 UK(CH), 4 yrs  |
"Having said that, she is your sub, and it is for you to decide how she behaves while at the club. " Could not agree with you more. However, its meant to be fun and im sure you will have a fun time if you just relax and go with the flow
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| 27 Dec 11, 5:21 PM Anneski UK(BA), 2 yrs |
I was taken to my first club by my Master, and was allowed to be myself, and socialise for the most part, as long as I was aware of what NOT to do - i.e. don't interfere in scenes, get in the way of whips etc, all things I was aware of anyway as it's no different really to any social setting. Of course he kept an eye out for me, made sure I wasn't being cornered by the small contingent of wanky men present etc.
And when I was more formally 'with' him, for example when he was introducing me as his sub to people, and we were taking part in the odd bit of play, I was obedient to him, and everyone else faded into the background - except for one extremely ignorant woman who kept interrupting our play and eventually proved to be very troublesome in more ways than one. For the most part I took my cue from him, and called people by what they were introduced to me as, and just behaved politely, as I would anywhere. Anneski |
