humiliation ideas from wikipedia (21)

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Means of humiliation

There are many scenarios which may be considered as giving rise to sexual humiliation. Some scenarios may be based on verbal abuse and others on physical aspects.

Verbal aspects might include:

Reduction to Human animal roleplay or human pet, referring to these individuals as pet, dog, girl, bitch, or making them eat and drink from pet food and water bowls.

Verbal belittlement, such as "slave", "boy", "girl", "missy", "pet". Insults and verbal abuse, such as "fat", "ugly", "stupid", "worthless".

degrading references, such as "slut", "tart", "bitch", and "whore".

Racial or ethnic slurs

Slighting of body parts or behaviors, such as disparaging or cruel references to breasts, facial appearance, genitalia or genital size, bottom, and slighting of mannerisms such as walking, responsiveness, standard of self-care.

Having to ask permission for everyday activities such as going to the toilet, spending money or eating.

Small breasts humiliation, where scorn is addressed over the supposed inadequacy of the adult female's breasts, or her inability to please a lover, and her breasts become objects of derision.

Small penis humiliation, where scorn is addressed over the supposed inadequacy of the adult male's genitals, or his inability to please a lover, and his penis becomes an object of derision.

Forced repetition, such as being obliged to repeat back commands to confirm them.

Forced flattery, such as agreeing that every decision that the dominant makes is wise, correct, and justifiable, while additionally praising the dominant's physical and personality traits.

Mockery, derision, and ridicule.

Being scolded like a child.

Physical and tangible aspects might include:

Ejaculating, spitting, or urinating on the bottom's body, especially the face.

Performance of menial tasks or abusive workload, such as cleaning the floors with a toothbrush.

Frequent, mandatory performance of sexual services for the dominant, such as erotic massage, cunnilingus, analingus, or fellatio, without expectations of reciprocal acts or intercourse.

Detailed accountability and control (micro-management) as to time spent or activities done, including list of jobs to do, precise directions as to how the housework is to be performed, and exactly how to act and behave.

Specific rituals and affectations to be adopted. This includes displays of subservience, such as lighting cigarettes, walking a pace behind the dominant, only speaking when spoken to, kneeling or prostrating in front of the dominant when expecting orders, eating only after others or on the floor, low status place to sleep, and a wide variety of body worship activities such as kissing or licking the dominant's feet, boots, buttocks, anus, vulva, etc. to express acknowledgment, subservience, shame, or even positive emotions such as happiness or excitement.

Suppressed freedom of movement and/or privacy. This may include never being able to leave the room in which the dominant is present without permission, having the dominant watch while the slave or submissive uses the toilet, being forbidden to leave the house or 'dungeon' in general for the duration of slavery or servitude, etc.

Detailed punishments for a variety of 'infractions' or misbehavior, such as having to stand in a corner facing a wall for several hours, flogging or whipping, reduced rations, or forced exercise.

Roleplaying "lower status" beings, such as animals (for example dog or horse) or babies/children (see human animal roleplay, pup-play, and adult baby play).

Spanking, slapping, whipping, restraint or other BDSM activities such as cock and ball torture (CBT).

Prohibitions or restrictions on clothing, even in public.

For females a common example is being mandated to only wear revealing bikinis or lingerie.

For men, a particularly powerful sense of humiliation may be achieved through forced feminizing or cross-dressing.

Both sexes may be expected to go completely nude, with decorative objects such as collars, diapers, bands, tiaras, or cuffs being the only exceptions.

Use of chastity belts or other means of erotic sexual denial.

Wearing of external signs of "ownership", such as a collar.

Having friends, family or strangers aware of or witnessing one's treatment (i.e., public humiliation).

Erotic objectification, where the bottom is cast in the role of an object, such as a footstool.

Embarrassment.

Male forced anal penetration using dildos, anal plugs, or similar objects.

Cuckoldry, taking on a third party lover to humiliate the bottom as an expression of the relationship between the top and the bottom. In this scenario, the bottom typically is allowed only to witness, and not invited or permitted to participate.

Having to ask permission to orgasm during sex or masturbation.

Forced to wear a gag or restraints on the body.

Financial domination, where usually a submissive (or money slave) will give gifts and money to a dominant. The relation may often be accompanied by other practices of BDSM, but there may be virtually no further intimacy between the individuals.

Forced masturbation in a humiliating manner.

Feelings of humiliation are key to many of those engaged in klismaphilia.

Feederism

Some sexual humiliation involves inflicting pain, but much of it is far more concerned with ridicule, mocking, degradation, and embarrassment.

Sexual roleplaying may or may not involve humiliation. For example, one person might play the part of a dog because they enjoy being mock-forced into it, and the top will emphasize the lowness of the bottom's status as an animal, whereas another person might play the role of the dog without any element of humiliation, simply as an expression of their inner animal or playful spirit.

Edited Mon 26 Dec 11, 7:49 PM by MsBorgia_and_Mrk

"As with any form of pain experimentation in a sexual context, consent and (paradoxically) a high degree of awareness and communication is needed to ensure that the result is desirable, rather than abusive. For example, a submissive may enjoy being insulted in some ways, but be genuinely crushed and devastated if humiliated or insulted in other ways."

Edited 26 Dec 11, 9:20 PM by MsBorgia_and_Mrk

straitjacket wrote: I've often wondered about praising how beautiful a sub looks and is, as a form of embarrassment/humiliation.Some people can't handle compliments about themselves and I think from the heart praising whilst they're in a position unable to stop it could make them feel embarrassed by the truth,sort of reverse verbal humiliation. It would have to be heartfelt and truthful and you'll have to try to make the sub accept that this is the way you feel. You could push them on it as well to give them a nice emotional overload. There would have to be a lot of care by the dom to make the sure that the sub is not going in the wrong direction and thinking that your just saying lies to them. Any thoughts?

Beauty is only skin deep, ugly goes straight to the bone.
Feeling uncomfortable on IC since January 20th 2011.

It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice xx

Being made to look or feel stupid and then being laughed at works very well too.

As ever communication, partners talk to each other, shock horror !

At the start get sub to list in order of preference activities they like, if name calling comes far down or isn't on the list then surly this is because they don't like it. So it can be assumed (I think) that many comments would be hurtful.

If on the list, then get sub to list preferences, if any, of phraseology. Try these out, check an re check by compilation,interrogation and observation. A difficult some what unwieldy process but worth it if a significant relationship.

If a sub feels loved an cherished then out of place comments might not cut too deep, do too much long term damage.

"Yeah I like Kinky stuff,dirty dark pervy stuff,weird sex.... An' Yerself ?"
Award Winning Switch.

Then do as you wish ? And not worry ?

"Yeah I like Kinky stuff,dirty dark pervy stuff,weird sex.... An' Yerself ?"
Award Winning Switch.

I guess you can only do what you would do with physical things, just push a little bit at a time and observe the reaction. If it looks like it is turning him off instead of on, go back to what was doing it and build from that.

This is how it was used on me in my last 2 D/s experiences, for men there is an "obvious" tell tale sign of arousal.

I don't mind if I get broken I don't mind if I get fixed I don't mind if I'm not spoken I don't mind if I get kicks If I wake up dead I'll wake up just like any other day