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| Sat 24 Dec 11, 9:38 PM rose_in_chains UK(W), 4 yrs |
The other night a group of friends and I were talking, and someone commented that they didn't like the word 'play' to describe what it is we do. Being scared out of one's wits being incongruous with the kind of play we enjoyed as children... But, I like the word 'play' to describe what it is we do... Mainly because however much I also (sometimes) enjoy being scared out of my wits, it has to also be fun. And nothing is more fun than play... I think I like it too, because it is incongruent... Subverting the meaning of words is something I rather enjoy. Anyhow, over to you... For information, this is what the IC dictionary says about play...
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| 24 Dec 11, 10:05 PM Belasarius UK(M), 8 yrs        |
Yes, I Iike the way "play" seems to mostly be used around here. We certainly use it to describe anything done for my pleasure or hers. It helps to distinguish these activities from punishment, which is quite another thing. My goal - to save women from nature (Dior) | |
| 24 Dec 11, 10:17 PM Rhoobarb UK(FK), 12 yrs |
A lot of children's play does involve being scared out of one's wits. But yes, I like the word 'play', as (in my opinion) what we do is fun. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ | |
| 24 Dec 11, 10:23 PM totallycoverme UK(M), 4 yrs |
I'm not keen on the word "play" as it seems to imply that it's a bit of a role play thing rather than a real thing with real actions and real feelings (that is to say that if master talks to me in a stern voice, he's not doing it for a laugh and putting this voice on)...bottom line, we're not actors, we're real people doing this (what ever "this" is) as a real thing. However, with all of the above said, I can't find a better word than play so yeah, sometimes I say "play" sometimes I say "scene" sometimes I say "S and M". It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice Edited 24 Dec 11, 10:24 PM by totallycoverme | |
| 24 Dec 11, 10:27 PM Agent_Cooper UK(CF), 4 yrs  |
I too like the term play as what we often do is a release from reality; so much fun! | |
| 24 Dec 11, 10:34 PM Belasarius UK(M), 8 yrs |
Absolutely agree with this. It is just that there are times when we play I don't ever feel stern (or sound it) when we do, My goal - to save women from nature (Dior) | |
| 24 Dec 11, 10:44 PM Grownup_Frankie UK, 4 yrs |
I like the word itself and what it signifies, as a concept - to 'play' seems to me a most admirable thing in life, used in many contexts. Mrs GUF and I 'play' at 'House', we've always said, and it makes me think of two souls acting in fellowship and mutual co-operation, of two minds conjouring up whole worlds between themselves - of make-beleive and making-real. So I like the way it is used in BDSM terms also, because I am presuming that that generosity of spirit I feel lives in the word is inherent in its use. It is not a mean-spirited word. | |
| 24 Dec 11, 10:50 PM Meistre UK(NR), 2 yrs |
"Play" is a perfectly good word to use as a description of what we do in play.... What other word can we use to describe it and still convey the general concept as well as the enjoyment derived ?!?
Omnia vincit amor | |
| 25 Dec 11, 12:22 AM Tanos  UK(M), 14 yrs  |
People used to talk about doing SM work rather than SM play  :T: www.tanos.org.uk | |
| 25 Dec 11, 12:25 AM NimueBanditQueen UK(MK), 2 yrs |
Gosh! I think play sounds rather more attractive than work! I hadn't realised it was meant to refer to non-sexual and S & M more specifically, although I probably have been using mostly in that sense anyway. | |
| 25 Dec 11, 12:40 AM Hibiscus UK(NP), 5 yrs |
If the discussion turns desperate you can always quote Nietzche at 'em "A man's maturity: that is to have rediscovered the seriousness he possessed as a child at play." Tweak the genders as usual for using 19th century philosophy to back your argument, but, should things become ribald, hold back: "The true man wants two things: danger and play. For that reason he wants woman, as the most dangerous toy." Just for that germanic supremacist frisson thing. Wisdom says: be strong! Then canst thou bear more joy. |
