Pro dommes/rudeness (25)

A lot of guys(dom or sub, switch) I came across have been so rude. When they get my refusal, they start saying f-word, c-word, offensive comments, racist comments, whatever. I am too thick skinned and I am not affected by any of those though(...and I don't even block them!).

I personally think disappearing without saying good bye during chat is not that rude, to be honest. When they have refusal from other person, I understand they don't have anything to say anymore to the person, so they just want to get out of chat quickly and move on. They don't even have to give a good impression to the person by saying good bye. It is just online chat. Also anything can happen, e.g. bad internet connection, having a visitor at the door, their toast is burning, etc etc.

Anyone approaching you with a memo asking for money please report them as it's against the AUP rules and tarnishes us all. This post by @Ms_Valentine on the 'are PD's welcome on IC' thread sums it up very nicely -

"The green £ sign policy is interesting as it works but only in certain instances. Those cases are decent, reputable PDs who naturally upon being asked by Admin to identify themselves in that way to protect the unwary, did so and continue to do so.

The Green £ sign also fails because the very people who do not put up the £ signs are the dodgy lifestylers/players who try to recruit through the personals by deception. You can't have a personal ad and be a PD displaying a green sign, so misuse of personals is likely to be casual players trying to make some pin money on the side rather than PDs set up with websites, paying tax and listed on Directorys/Twitter/Blogs.

By definition, those women are not PDs, just sneaky cheats.

Some on here cannot see the difference between PDs honestly and openly acknowledging their professional status and liars lurking in the personals making money in a shabby underhand way.

Asking for money for BDSM is not the defining feature which makes a person a PD. Sorry but it isn't. It is their openness, and professional set up which differentiates them from those who just try to scam money from men via personal ads.

Proper PDs spend money on their own websites, take time to write blogs and tweet to advertise, list themselves on Domme Directories, often at some considerable expense to get themselves maximum exposure for what is their legitimate business. Why would these same ladies then creep around in the personal ads of IC trying to sneakily capture a few unsuspecting novice subs. No, those are the actions of those who haven't the wherewithal to kit themselves with good equipment, run a website and organise a business but are happy to hang on the coat tails of those who do and pick up the meagre scraps.

Do not mistake the two....they are not the same."

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Thanks, could you clarify as to whether these 2 pro dommes had the green £ sign showing or not please?

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I never use the chat feature to be honest.

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I have to disagree. No one member of a group should be used as a touchstone by which to judge all others in that group. So, a PD was rude to you in not saying goodbye during chat. That says nothing about the rest of us PDs, it is her behaviour and so can only mean anything about her.

It is frustrating to be judged as a group, and not as individuals.

PDs are similar only in as much as we openly and fairly offer bdsm commercially. In every other way we are likely to be different and unique.

It is not acceptable to use this attitude about other groups, so I don't quite know why bringing it up on here would be useful, as the respondents on here are not the ones you are complaining about.

It also is likely to annoy those of us who do stick to the rules, to see all PDs lumped together in a negative way.

lastly mentioning they are PDs does not make them 'touting for trade' or whatever crude phrase is that people use. It just means they informed the OP of their job. He told them he did not have use for a PD. They stopped chatting. Maybe they saw no point in talking to someone who appeared not to want to talk to a PD.

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Edited 20 Dec 11, 7:36 PM by Ms_Valentine