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Is this it?!! (22)

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chartreuse

I have met just about every sort of male sub that exists -

• the "do me"
• the "I will when I want to"
• the "I might but... first you can do this, that or the other to me"
• the "in a minute"
• the "after I've done this"
• the "I won't be long" (50 minutes later and I am still waiting for them to finish what they were doing (playing a game on their i-phone), while I sit and wait... patiently - all ready to go out (coat & scarf on), as discussed and planned, together. Really, it's no wonder I changed my mind! Is it?)
• the "I'm too busy/too tired"
• the "whatever you want, Mistress"
• the "you're the best thing that has ever happened to me"
• the "only in the bedroom"
• the "you need looking after"
• the "I can say/do as I please but you should only say/do what I want you to do"
• the "I feel horny, let's do something about it"
• the "let's go out, where do you want to go/what do you want to do? (Then I reply and they say)... Oh, **** will be much more fun, let's do that, shall we?"
• the "I want to be with you, be nice to me and I will stick around"
• the "give me a chance and I won't let you down"
• the "you are in charge and can make all the decisions... I don't agree with you about that so it's not going to happen"
• the "I will talk about anything, I will be honest with you, we can work through anything... I am leaving, we don't see eye to eye"
• the "Yes but... I only did that because...."
• the "I was only joking"
• the "If you think that was domination, think again and try harder"
• the "I can't do that, it's a dominant act"
• the ones who think I only say things for effect and not because I mean it
• the ones who think that honesty is a one way street... e.g. they think it is ok to say what they need to say to me (to help me to understand them) but heaven help me if I say what I need to say to them (to help them to understand me and the way I think/feel)
• the "I promise... I won't forget" who then forgets what he promised

I'm sure there are many types that I have not listed that I have also encountered... as long as I dominate them in the way they want me to, they might have stuck around. What's so wrong with me being me and them accepting that? Why do they only hear the things they want to hear, why are they always the ones to stipulate what I can do... why can't they accept that if they do something I don't like they also have to work through it?

Heaven forbid that I should ever expect them to make compromises, consider me or put me ahead of themselves, EVER!

Edited Sun 18 Dec 11, 4:14 PM by chartreuse

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18 Dec 11, 4:08 PM MsWhisper 8 yrs	chartreuse wrote: Heaven forbid that I should ever expect them to make compromises, consider me or put me ahead of themselves, EVER! Amen to that! Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those that matter don't mind!
18 Dec 11, 4:34 PM prettyPETunia UK(WS), 4 yrs	What about the "Il just carry on sitting on the shelf gathering dust" one? If love is blind I need to find a cane
18 Dec 11, 5:32 PM Scribe321 UK(GU), 2 yrs	In the words of P.G.Wodehouse, who seemed to know a thing or two about relationships... "there is always golf".
18 Dec 11, 6:31 PM chartreuse UK(BA), 6 yrs	Ermmm... I think all the above had that in common. axmassub wrote: What about the "Il just carry on sitting on the shelf gathering dust" one? @The_Coven / @The_Problem_Page, you might give the advice that someone needs. / I want the "Moon on a stick and the Stars suspended from bunting". / So many haystacks, so few needles! / Conserve conversation and converse about conservation!
18 Dec 11, 6:44 PM misunderstoodslave UK(OL), 2 yrs	um, they don't sound awfully submissive. I wouldn't dare say "in a minute" or "when I've finished this" if given an order. I might ask if I could finish something first, if feeling particularly daring. If you want to submit, but only to stuff you agree with how does that count? There must be some men who are genuinely submissive, in the sense I use the term to mean, surely?
18 Dec 11, 6:55 PM chartreuse UK(BA), 6 yrs	Yes... there are some men who wish to submit in the ways I want them to, however... when you factor in the requirement for good chemistry the chance of finding one makes them even more elusive. I am seeking one of the few needles that are scattered amongst the many haystacks, it's virtually an impossible task to locate a good needle. Mistletoeslave wrote: um, they don't sound awfully submissive. I wouldn't dare say "in a minute" or "when I've finished this" if given an order. I might ask if I could finish something first, if feeling particularly daring. If you want to submit, but only to stuff you agree with how does that count? There must be some men who are genuinely submissive, in the sense I use the term to mean, surely? @The_Coven / @The_Problem_Page, you might give the advice that someone needs. / I want the "Moon on a stick and the Stars suspended from bunting". / So many haystacks, so few needles! / Conserve conversation and converse about conservation!
18 Dec 11, 7:03 PM tanken UK(NR), 2 yrs	It isn't just female dommes though, lots of us have trouble finding compatible partners. Happiness is a warm bum
18 Dec 11, 7:06 PM chartreuse UK(BA), 6 yrs	I refer you to the above list, do you recognise any of them and... do you still wonder why so many Dommes/subs are still seeking? What sort of Dommes have you met? tanken wrote: It isn't just female dommes though, lots of us have trouble finding compatible partners. @The_Coven / @The_Problem_Page, you might give the advice that someone needs. / I want the "Moon on a stick and the Stars suspended from bunting". / So many haystacks, so few needles! / Conserve conversation and converse about conservation!
18 Dec 11, 7:45 PM tanken UK(NR), 2 yrs	chartreuse wrote: I refer you to the above list, do you recognise any of them and... do you still wonder why so many Dommes/subs are still seeking? What sort of Dommes have you met? Several different dommes, chatted up none. I can do chat, I can't do 'chatting up'. Happiness is a warm bum
18 Dec 11, 7:48 PM chartreuse UK(BA), 6 yrs	*Wonders why the words willing to please and happy to serve are so frequently promised but are then ignored/considered inconsequential/unimportant.* **Note to self... Don't be so ready to believe what you are told, time always reveals the truth - take the time.** @The_Coven / @The_Problem_Page, you might give the advice that someone needs. / I want the "Moon on a stick and the Stars suspended from bunting". / So many haystacks, so few needles! / Conserve conversation and converse about conservation!

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