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| 19 Dec 11, 10:29 PM tanken UK(NR), 2 yrs   |
My feeling is that the more safe the environment for play then the more willing people are to experiment. That's just how I feel I could be wrong in general. Happiness is a warm bum | ||
| 19 Dec 11, 10:41 PM rehtael_ni_dal  UK(G), 9 yrs |
Yes, you are quite correct, but I still think that its the kind of thing that dear Oscar would or should have said I do not agree with what you have to say, but I'll defend to the death your right to say it. | ||
| 19 Dec 11, 10:50 PM will_ingtoplease UK(LN), 3 yrs |
suppose if you was running a event you would want and hope certain people there , could easily come up with a dozen names on here , and if just one of them turned up or said they were coming the others would be happy. If they all said yes you could fill wembley stadium . with want to be on the list people that's life , but the hopefuls still need that chance and if too exclusive how do they get it . so the List yes or no question there is not really a answer , there is superstars waiting to be found probally . Next on stage is a sub who can ??????????????? I now you have seen it all before , | ||
| 19 Dec 11, 11:01 PM totallycoverme UK(M), 4 yrs |
i totally agree that alcohol and play don't mix. that's the thing with a place like lash though (as an example) in that not everyone who goes there is going there to play. nay, i suspect that not everyone who goes there is that into bdsm...some people are more into the fetish side of things and having a drink and dance (i'm guessing from what i've seen anyways). when it comes to play and alcohol, there will always be a few people who do a few silly things but i think in the instance of clubs that have a bit of everything, there has never been (to my knowledge/experience) a problem with this. the beauty of an invite only event is that perhaps it gives the organisers more power to say what they do and don't want out of an event. if i was running an event (for example), i would allow people to bring a few cans if that was their thing (venue permitting) but if i knew someone who could get a bit ott on the drink front then i could always choose not to invite them to said event if i thought that i would be offended by their mixing drink with play. this is a tricky one though in that whether an event is "all welcome" or "invite only", in either case there's only so much you can do to control how people behave. that is to say that of course you can specify rules but there might be one or two people who mess about in a way that takes things too far. i guess that's the risk that people take with any event an that if it's an "all are welcome" type of event, organisers have bouncers to rely on and if it's an "invite only" event, the organisers have their initial judgement to rely on. It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice | ||
| 19 Dec 11, 11:04 PM rehtael_ni_dal UK(G), 9 yrs |
Whats the capacity of Wembley? 90,000? I doubt that there are that many club goers in the UK that would potentionaly attend clubs IC seemingly get 3,000 logging in a day and a percentage of them are probably 'duplicate' with members having more than one profile. If there where that many interested club goers clubs would be raking in the money, however most are probably just breaking even. (If even that) Which is a reason why I feel that 'guest only' lists for clubs is a bad idea Yes by all means 'vet' people as much as possible but to turn noses up at fresh 'blood' seems to be suicide.
I do not agree with what you have to say, but I'll defend to the death your right to say it. | ||
| 19 Dec 11, 11:10 PM Ama_Sidero UK(GU), 7 yrs       |
Tis true, there are people, who if they say they are coming, people will want to come. The other side of the coin is scene politics which means if "they" come, the "others" will not.
Also, the "invite only" thing is a good marketing tool. It makes people feel really special to have a personal and special invitation. I would love to do that - but I always hope everyone would turn up as I would invite all 400 + members. I've found though, that even the "invite only", though is simply another way of vetting - guests are recommended by current members to be invited. It is the same thing really. Because of that, I think some places steer clear of the popularity game (i.e. scene politics) and just welcome everyone who wants to come and have a nice time socialising and playing. PlaySpace isn't an exclusive club and it isn't intended to be. It IS intended for people to feel secure and comfortable, no matter their gender, playstyle, orientation, etc. Anyone is welcome to become a member - it isn't that complicated. It is a shame that "guest lists" can be taken so many ways and meke people feel they might not be welcome. ON the other hand, people really ought to just ASK and not presume they wouldn't be welcome! OH. On a humourous note, there was a post about terminology. Actually, "guest list" seems to usually refer to those people getting in free and a "door list" is the attendance list. At the first PlaySpace party, I started sending out memos confirming people had been put on the "guest list" and had several people thanking me for the free entry. I had to go back and hurriedly delete about 50 unread memo's and redo them. LOL
@Play_Space - Next party is Friday, January 6, 2012 and the first Friday of every month! | ||
| 19 Dec 11, 11:19 PM rehtael_ni_dal UK(G), 9 yrs |
Is that really important to people ? Seems to me that anybody who would think that are probably up their own backsides and/or have inferiority issues. Edited to add that when I was about five I felt really special to get a party invite with ballons printed on it and hand delivered........ I do not agree with what you have to say, but I'll defend to the death your right to say it. Edited 19 Dec 11, 11:25 PM by rehtael_ni_dal | ||
| 19 Dec 11, 11:20 PM Tanos UK(M), 14 yrs   |
Ah "door list"! Thanks. "Open events" and "Door list events". That's a decent pair of terms. :T: www.tanos.org.uk | ||
| 19 Dec 11, 11:29 PM Ama_Sidero UK(GU), 7 yrs |
TBH, I would imagine most people wouldn't think about it on that level (ie, look at how important I am, or that it is important), they would just think how nice it is to get a personal invite and that someone took the time to do it.
@Play_Space - Next party is Friday, January 6, 2012 and the first Friday of every month! | ||
| 21 Dec 11, 5:51 PM mrboo UK(ME), 11 yrs |
This is how I feel Play only events or events with fetish and sex going on. you need to pre book or be known to person running event. Fetish partys that are on the high street or so on Open door I find people get very mixed upto what is what people call play clubs fetish clubs when it really is not the case. Walking off the street into a fetish event like TG/AC or one that has people that only go to dress up is fine. As you would find there more people that go for the vibe then goto play like TG and AC. They have far more people into kinky sex or dressing up then S/M or D/S play . But a Play event with only people that are into S/M or D/S need to be made to feel safe to play on view so it need to be that only people that go to play or understands what going on can get to view what is going on inside. Just making people pre book stops people just walking off the street. This does happen I know of a play event in London that once had a couple turn up for an other night but ended up getting in it was ok mind you they had fun but it can go both ways they could walk out and go running to press. Some people will goto there local club no matter what event is on. Want good virgin sex? Once in a life time offer. Edited 21 Dec 11, 6:06 PM by mrboo |
