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Its that quite period between the death and the funeral this week, a time to reflect and also to try and remember the good times.
Remembering how mom was when she was fit and reasonably healthy will come in time, but for the moment all I can remember of her is how she was towards the end, she'd become some one who looked a little like mom but it wasn't her, many on here know what a terrible thing it is to watch a loved one slowly fade away in front of your eyes to a point when they no longer have any idea who you are.
The funeral is set for 11.30 on Monday and then 12.30 at the crematorium, then back to the church for tea, coffee and sandwiches for an hour or so, I don't want to go to the thing afterwards, but I suppose I'd best put in an appearance for a while at least.
I don't much want to see the family and I have more important things to be doing with my time as I have a guest arriving 3 days later for Christmas and lots of tidying up to sort out still as I've done very little for the last week or so in the house and on other projects I have on at the moment, things that are more important to me.
Weight Watchers is slowing down at the moment, not that there's not going to be meetings to go to all over Christmas and the new year and I'm currently trying to get that extra 3lbs off to reach my 75lbs gone before Christmas, I'm thinking that would be the best Christmas present I can give not only myself but the boss also 
I very much doubt Monday is going to be an easy day, but its one of those days and things in life we have to do, not so much for the one who's passed or for one's self but more for others.
I do suspect the church will be packed to overflowing but thats more a reflection on who mom and before her dad was, but I dare say we'll see come Monday.
| 13 Dec 11, 8:25 AM prettyPETunia UK(WS), 4 yrs |
This I love about ic. One minute im bounding around like a devil possessed, the next minute,..this, and reality hits. Huge sympathies. If love is blind I need to find a cane | ||
| 13 Dec 11, 8:46 AM fay_subswell_425ft UK, 3 yrs  |
QuietD you and your family are in my thoughts and you know where I am if you need me. Lots of hugs and cuddles xxxx | ||
| 13 Dec 11, 9:08 AM FluffySub UK(NN), 6 yrs      |
I know this one far too well. The good stuff will come in time, I promise. Thinking of you over the next week. I have sent a special batch of hugs to Jip to dispense when needed xxx
Not huffy or stuffy, nor tiny or tall,
But fluffy, just fluffy, with no brains at all. | ||
| 13 Dec 11, 9:30 AM dannigirl1 UK(CV), 2 yrs |
As i have said before my mother has advanced dementia so i totally know what you have gone through at the latter years. It really is a horrendus disease. I hope that the funeral helps to lay her to rest and be at peace in your mind. She is no longer suffering. I send hugs and my best wishes, and hope the day is as painless as it possibly can be for you and yours. xxx Walk on the Wildside | ||
| 13 Dec 11, 9:31 AM angellover UK(CM), 3 yrs |
I agree with FrostySub as all I could remember after the police knocked my doors to say my son was in a car crash and they beleive the other driver had been drinking, was the picture of him then at the hospital and when he was on a life support machine and I couldn't remember nothing else for a while. It did change for me after time as I know it will for you in your time too. My thoughts are with you at this time and that you also have a good time when your vistor arrives for Christmas.
The highest fences we have to climb, are those we have built within our mind | ||
| 13 Dec 11, 1:03 PM Qwoins_calamity UK(S), 3 yrs |
My mum always had this piece of advice for me .. If when you think of the person your grieving for and you no longer cry ,or feel that sadness in your heart then its time for you to remember the happier memorys. Im thinking of you my friend and sending my hugs xxx Good girls blush during naughty scenes in the movies. Bad girls smile because they know they can do better. | ||
| 13 Dec 11, 5:05 PM karena UK(CW), 6 yrs |
Thinking of you x "Sometimes what seems like surrender isn't surrender at all. It's about what's going on in our hearts. About seeing clearly the way life is and accepting it and being true to it, whatever the pain, because the pain of not being true to it is far, far greater." - Nicholas Evans, The Horse Whisperer |
