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| River_Deep |
I am going to reply to it here.
If you are in a relationship why do you have to say so on your profile? Is this not making people conform to what YOU think is right. Yes, that the majority do think it is essential openness, but some do not.
You are saying that they HAVE to mention it. Some of those do not care if someone else is in a relationship. If someone wants to have sex/play/whatever with someone else it is their responsibility to ask in their own time and manner.
No I am not not condoning cheating!! I have recently spoken to a very nice guy who does not say he is married on his profile but within 5 memos he mentioned. I did not run off, but he knows we will never get together. We have a laugh via memo instead. Do I agree with what he is doing. Good God no. Am I going to judge him and tell him to fuck off from chatting. Good God no.
Live and let live ( THEIR OWN LIVES IN THEIR OWN MANNER)
Edited Sat 3 Dec 11, 8:35 AM by River_Deep
| 3 Dec 11, 9:12 AM valleyrose17 UK(BS), 2 yrs |
There's a lot in the above i agree with and i dont want to take your blog off-topic RD but i suspect that my response to hatari's blog would be "moderated". Hatari, you say you are going to moderate any judgmental replies - so you are going to make a judgement on the judgmental? rather hypocritical don't you think? "Fear is that little darkroom where negatives are developed" Michael Pritchard | |
| 3 Dec 11, 9:17 AM angelicvixen_MH UK(PO), 7 yrs  |
Well said. I couldn't have put it better myself and I do agree with RD too. I wont reply to the blog as it's moderated so wont get to put my point of view across I am what I am and what I am needs no excuses | |
| 3 Dec 11, 10:33 AM River_Deep UK, 6 yrs |
BTW this blog is not moderated I just have certain people who I think are absolute dicks blocked from my blogs and memos!!! It is not what you say or do but the way you say or do it | |
| 3 Dec 11, 10:40 AM Monkey_Wench UK(B), 20 mths    |
Thank you for allowing us the opportunity to reply without our replies being judged to see if in the judgement of the OP they are judgemental. I would never condemn those in a relationship for seeking what they need outside it. It is not my place to. I don't live their life, I have no idea of the personalities, pressures, preferences or priorities of the people involved. And I say that as someone who has never had an affair myself, but has been the one cheated upon. It wasn't nice, but I lived, and escaped relatively unscathed. I am not sure if I could embark on a relationship with someone married, but that's my choice, I don't try to push it on others. If I am asked my opinion I give it, otherwise, it's none of my business. Constructed almost entirely of filth. | |
| 3 Dec 11, 10:43 AM River_Deep UK, 6 yrs |
Just answer away. The only time I block people is when they get offensive to another person(not an opinion in general) and when they are such pompous so and so's that they refuse to listen to others opinions and bang on and on and on about their own. It is not what you say or do but the way you say or do it | |
| 3 Dec 11, 10:50 AM valleyrose17 UK(BS), 2 yrs |
Oh that's me then - 'cos I am ALWAYS right 
"Fear is that little darkroom where negatives are developed" Michael Pritchard | |
| 3 Dec 11, 10:51 AM angelicvixen_MH UK(PO), 7 yrs |
I like that RD, I think I may do the same and I have never blocked anyone in my life. Can they see what we post if they are blocked? I am what I am and what I am needs no excuses | |
| 3 Dec 11, 10:53 AM jules9 UK(CH), 3 yrs    |
I think there are sooooooo many different situations out there. I'm pretty much with admin on the informed consent part of things. But I understand that's my moral take on things, I don't expect others to have the same take. That said, things aren't always black and white, my Dom is actively looking for others to play/sleep with. The married group would probably have been perfect for us, as we're not looking for poly. The longer I spend living within a BDSM setting, the more I'm realising the huge extent of greyness there is out there. XxX | |
| 3 Dec 11, 10:58 AM hollythedolly UK(NN), 2 yrs  |
I had an affair with a married man, i didn't know he was married until it was too late and i'd fallen for him. He didn't leave his wife for me, but i was the catalyst for him changing his life. He is now engaged to a woman who shares his passion in life. Do i regret seeing him, no i don't. Would i ever see a married man again no i wouldn't.I don't even think i could be the second sub within a poly relationship because on the whole it usually is one person gets hurt and it isn't the dom. But would i have other play partners where it is strictly bdsm play and no doing the do yes i would. | |
| 3 Dec 11, 11:43 AM chartreuse UK(BA), 6 yrs  |
I don't think any of us are "pure as the driven..." and we all do things that maybe we shouldn't. In the past, when I was young and single, I had affairs with a few people who were either in a relationship or were married, did I feel bad about them? This is where there are different answers - I felt bad about some of them and not about others... it depended on the man, his reasons for seeking female company (other than his partner's) and how strongly I felt about each one of them. Would I do it again? No... having been the deceived partner, I wouldn't (not knowingly, anyway). However, I do like to know the relationship status of people, if I don't how can I choose whether I want it to maintain a friendship status or possibly be something more? Knowledge is power, it provides us with the power to make choices that sit well with us, it doesn't mean we will shun the company of people who are in a relationship it just means we know we have to set ourselves limits, limits that we can live with (some choose not to limit themselves, I was once one of them) and we all live and learn, don't we? @The_Coven / @The_Problem_Page, you might give the advice that someone needs. / I want the "Moon on a stick and the Stars suspended from bunting". / So many haystacks, so few needles! / Conserve conversation and converse about conservation! |
