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As some may know my mother is in hospital and today I went to visit her....
It hasn't been the easiest of days, walking in was easy enough but not the sight that greeted me. I knew this wasn't going to be an easy visit, mom was asleep the whole time I was there, she never even woke up when the nurses turned her onto her left side, I spent most of the time talking with my sister that I'd not seen for close on 12 months.
Mom was simply skin and bones, there's very little left of the woman she was, dementia is an evil thing, in some ways almost a living death.
A doctor called in to see us while we were there, to ask if the decision thats been taken was ok with us, it is. They had stopped all medication last night, their simply keeping her comfortable now and only giving her pain killers and a little oxygen when she needs it, my sister did ask what the doctor thought the time scale we are looking at is likely to be, the answer was likely days.
I will be going again on Sunday afternoon, if only to give my sister a break as she herself looks awful.
Getting back across town to WW took close on 40 mins to do a 10 minute journey, but it was well worth going, its what I needed to be amongst friends and to have a purpose, I was a little late but that was expected and I did need to come home first to feed Jip and make sure he was ok.
The high point of the day was getting on the scales this evening as I have lost another 1 lb this week which is now 72 lbs gone with is also 20% of my body weight, its an achievement I know as not many people get to that figure or the amount, but the day over all has sort of taken the edge off this evening all in all.
My hope is now that mom slips away peacefully and quickly, she's not had what she would have called any real quality of life for some time, her time is nearly ended and its time to move on to leave this world and her suffering behind her.
Mothers life has been a full and happy one all in all, she'd seen many changes during her life, in the 40's she was a fire woman in London during the Blitz, she was married for 54 years until dads death in 95, raised 4 children, in the 1970's she'd gained qualifications in public speaking and computer operating, in the days when a computer took a whole room up and she couldn't even take a hot drink into the room as it would upset the computer.
She had also had a lot of illness's during her life but wasn't one to complain about things, she just got on with it. In 2004 she went into hospital for what should have been 10 to 14 days, eight and a half months later she was finally allowed home after having contracted the MRSA virus and surviving it when others half her age were falling victim to that bug.
Edited Fri 2 Dec 11, 11:06 PM by QuietD
| 2 Dec 11, 11:07 PM twilightsilence UK(ME), 16 mths |
I'm sorry to hear about your mum. I hope she is peaceful xx
Congratulations on the weight loss, that is amazing, you should be very proud of your achievement Take me on a journey and keep me safe on our travels.... | |
| 2 Dec 11, 11:11 PM FluffySub UK(NN), 6 yrs      |
Thinking of you and your Mum, Pete - if you need anyone to look after Jip in the next few weeks, do not hesitate to call me, he's welcome back here if you need to change your priorities for a while xxx Not huffy or stuffy, nor tiny or tall,
But fluffy, just fluffy, with no brains at all. | |
| 2 Dec 11, 11:17 PM QuietD UK(WV), 7 yrs |
Thanks for the offer but he will be fine, he's settling in very nicely and I don't want him upset and thinking he's on the move again.
Life may knock us down, but its how we get up and move forward that's important. | |
| 2 Dec 11, 11:31 PM angellover UK(CM), 3 yrs  |
I wish your mom a quick and peaceful passing... Thinking of you and your family at this time, as its never easy.
The highest fences we have to climb, are those we have built within our mind | |
| 2 Dec 11, 11:50 PM Miss_OL UK(YO), 6 yrs |
Hoping your Mother passes peacefully and without pain. Put me on a pedestal, but be there to catch me if I fall. | |
| 2 Dec 11, 11:59 PM StellaMaris UK, 13 mths      |
Blessings. My thoughts are with you. x "The true test is not whether a man behaves like a gentleman, but whether he misbehaves like one." ~ Sydney Tremayne | |
| 3 Dec 11, 1:02 AM Shypeachybottom UK, 20 mths |
Thinking of you, your Mum and your sister as you go through these difficult days. ((Big hugs)) There's a somebody I'm longing to see, I hope that he turns out to be, someone to watch over me | |
| 3 Dec 11, 6:54 AM andrewsean UK(CO), 5 yrs |
QuietD, you are our friend and always will be and we wish you well in your diet and send our best wishes as regards your mum, you know where we are if you need us mate. Lyn, Andy and Frida xxx NON OMNIS MORIAR | |
| 3 Dec 11, 7:21 AM karena UK(CW), 6 yrs |
Thoughts are with you, your mum and your family xx "Sometimes what seems like surrender isn't surrender at all. It's about what's going on in our hearts. About seeing clearly the way life is and accepting it and being true to it, whatever the pain, because the pain of not being true to it is far, far greater." - Nicholas Evans, The Horse Whisperer | |
| 3 Dec 11, 7:36 AM dragons_sub UK(B), 4 yrs |
My thoughts and prayers are with you hun You know where I am if you need to talk xxxxxxxxxxxx My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness.-- Dalai Lama |
