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The call came this morning from my sister, mother is in hospital and has taken a turn for the worse.
Its planned that tomorrow I will go and visit her, thought its felt it will likely be for the last time, the hospital are asking if they can with hold treatment.
Mother is 88 and although I haven't seen her for some time I have to go tomorrow, the last time I saw her she had absolutely no idea who I was.
It may sound harsh to some but I didn't really want to see her as the person I knew and loved is no longer there, there's just a shell of who she was, some one who looked vaguely like mom, almost a case of the lights are on but no one is home.
Tomorrow is not going to be easy, but its something that has to be done, if not for myself certainly for others.
| 1 Dec 11, 1:58 PM valleyrose17 UK(BS), 2 yrs |
I am so sorry to hear this. My dad died some 20 years ago now. I wanted to be with him when he died - he was unconscious, he didn't know who I was the day before - but I still needed to be there with him. It wasn't pleasant, it wasn't an easy death but I am so glad I was there. It was a privilege to be there for such a wonderful loving man as I know he would have done the same for me. Good luck, take a deep breath, hugs xx "Fear is that little darkroom where negatives are developed" Michael Pritchard |
| 1 Dec 11, 2:47 PM DanesWood UK(OL), 4 yrs |
I totally understand. I visited my grandmother shortly before she died, her body was there, but her mind had been absent for a long time. Dementia and other similar conditions are very cruel to the affected and their loved ones. It won't be easy, but you know that. I hope that as a family you are all able to support each other through this and afterwards. "The most powerful sexual organ in the body is our brain, open your mind and allow your fantasies free reign. Mutual pleasure between consenting adults is a wonderful thing." |
| 1 Dec 11, 3:01 PM anjinetta1 4 yrs  |
My thoughts are with you as you travel. It is a journey I will have to make one day. Travel safely. |
| 1 Dec 11, 3:14 PM Qwoins_calamity UK(S), 3 yrs |
sending you hugs . Its not easy when the person you remember the one that cared about you and loved you no longer knows your even there. Its then up to you to remember the happier times, your memorys dont fade hunni. I remember thinking when my beloved gramps neared his end i too didnt want to see him , thinking back i am so glad i did. i got to say goodbye.
Good girls blush during naughty scenes in the movies. Bad girls smile because they know they can do better. |
| 1 Dec 11, 3:17 PM summberblues UK(LS), 7 yrs |
my old man said it was a relief in some respects when his mother finally passed away |
| 1 Dec 11, 7:57 PM Ember2b1 UK(WV), 12 mths |
You are in my thoughts, take the time to say goodbye you will always know that you were there, it won't be easy but in time it will help. Ember - Keeper of the naughty list |
| 1 Dec 11, 9:33 PM dannigirl1 UK(CV), 2 yrs |
My thoughts are with you. My gran suffered with dementia and died at 89 after an attack of pnemonia. My mother has had dementia/alzheimers for about 20 years now, she is only 74 and now is bed bound, cant speak, eat , drink or do anything for herself. It is the most horrendus, cruel disease. She has not spoken to me, or really recognised me for about 8 of those years.
I totally sympathise and all i can say is try to keep a smile on your face and be upbeat, you never really know how much they can hear.
*hugs sent* and have a safe trip x Walk on the Wildside |
| 1 Dec 11, 11:11 PM Sweetiejar UK(S), 11 yrs |
Its never going to be easy to do love, your family have been bloody awful and thats not likely to change. Just be strong, she will know you have been there in some deeply buried part of her. Will be thinking of you xxxxx Sweetiejar |
