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| Ms_Valentine |
I was reading a Daddy Dom blog and was really amazed by the similarity between it and my female led relationship.
However the similarity is not an exact copy, it is in fact a reverse one.
So, from my position of dominance, I get food cooked for me, drinks made, clothes ironed, baths run and generally all of my possible wishes and desires met, oh, and I get to tie him up, beat him, hurt his cock and so on as I wish.
From the perspective of the sub in the Daddy Dom, she gets all the same things done for her, she is pampered and treated to whatever she wants by her indulgent Daddy Dom. Presumably they do the other bdsm stuff the sub has in her interest list.
So, my point is that from outside, both relationships look similar. The woman is looked after, treated well, pampered, indulged with her every wish and the man is working hard to please her and serve her or look after and nurture her.
So, is my FLR and a Daddy Dom set up the same in outcome, although different in the view of the participants?
| 1 Dec 11, 12:03 PM Monkey_Wench UK(B), 20 mths    |
I think that I remember you yourself saying elsewhere on IC that the same acts performed by different people can have different meanings. Meanings that we ourselves imbue them with. (Or words to that effect) For me, one of the lovely things about DDD is the nurturing aspect. As women we are expected to nurture others. Feed our spouses and children, entertain family and friends, etc. Within DDD *I* am nurtured. (And wow, I had not made this link before, so thank you) For you, within your FLR *you* are nurtured. We come at it from different ends of the spectrum, but I suspect the nurturing, the feeling 'looked after' aspects of it are very similar. Of course I don't get to hurt cocks, nor do I want to, but that's the SM part of me, not the D/s part. Very interesting blog, it made me think. Thank you.
Constructed almost entirely of filth. Edited 1 Dec 11, 12:05 PM by Monkey_Wench | ||
| 1 Dec 11, 7:47 PM chartreuse UK(BA), 6 yrs  |
If the outcome is that BOTH of these types of relationship result in happy people then... yes, they are the same, in reverse - except, it is the male that does most of the work in both of types of relationship.
Maybe I should be seeking a DD who isn't a sadist.
@The_Coven / @The_Problem_Page, you might give the advice that someone needs. / I want the "Moon on a stick and the Stars suspended from bunting". / So many haystacks, so few needles! / Conserve conversation and converse about conservation! Edited 1 Dec 11, 7:51 PM by chartreuse | ||
| 1 Dec 11, 7:51 PM Ms_Valentine UK, 9 yrs |
Yes, that was what fascinated me, how two apparently opposite relationships work out in practical terms to have at least one similar outcome, with the men doing all the hard work Mistress of @paulss My PD blog at http://mistress-keene.blogspot.com/ http://twitter.com/#!/Mistress_Keene | ||
| 1 Dec 11, 8:02 PM chartreuse UK(BA), 6 yrs |
Precisely.
Of course, I wouldn't want to have a pacifier (dummy) stuffed in my mouth, nor wear nappies, nor be bottle fed Many of the other aspects appeal to me, though, e.g. a man who can take the initiative and who cares enough to find out what makes me happy and who is actually able to follow it through. *I wonder... Are there any DD's out there who would like a woman who wants it all her own way, most of the time? @The_Coven / @The_Problem_Page, you might give the advice that someone needs. / I want the "Moon on a stick and the Stars suspended from bunting". / So many haystacks, so few needles! / Conserve conversation and converse about conservation! | ||
| 1 Dec 11, 10:32 PM JennyM UK, 4 yrs |
You get your IRONING done for you in a FLR??? No-one told me about that bit. | ||
| 1 Dec 11, 10:35 PM Ms_Valentine UK, 9 yrs |
You have to beg and plead but yes, it can happen Mistress of @paulss My PD blog at http://mistress-keene.blogspot.com/ http://twitter.com/#!/Mistress_Keene |
... I wouldn't want to be told off, spanked, sent to bed early, told what to wear/eat or have my life run/decisions made by someone else, on my behalf. 