Reply options to Blogs memo only etc... (42)

Indoctrinated into them from birth, hense the kamikaze pilots. While our culture encouraged allegiance (sp) to the King and God, people were not raised or expected to be suicide bombers.

As cultural D/s goes, the system of showing respect by bowing lower than their conterpart fascinates me but when you're born into such a disciplined society where honouring your family, colleagues and country requires suicide (youngsters failing their grades) it is clearly not a consensual system.

Edited 30 Nov 11, 2:26 PM by Perplexion

I think the key comes in the words I have highlighted. As soon as you publish anything it loses it's privacy. If someone blogs and I reply, it being hidden I used to just delete my reply. Now if the issue concerns me I make a point of starting a reply blog.

Call me petty if you wish, I call it the right to reply.

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I guess this is really my point. AS I understand it we don't actually have a "right" to reply openly on a blog itself. We do of course have the option of starting our own discussion...

Let's all play nicely people.. Just remember.. This is meant to be fun!
"The art of being a gentleman is knowing when not to be..."

I agree that if I am going to express an opinion about something that will be relevant to others on the board then memo only or editing replies may feel churlish. If it is the telling of a personal story or event then I can see the angle for no replies.

I certainly don' think there should be any opinion expressed about a person, group of people or event without permitting replies..

The problem is the copyright law...

Let's all play nicely people.. Just remember.. This is meant to be fun!
"The art of being a gentleman is knowing when not to be..."

Fascinating.

Yes, self perception adn self-description are often flawed. But I think most people (apart from in some very special D/s relationships) would like to maintain the right to self-describe without it having public debate appended. And the reason for not wanting it nweed not be insecurity; it could be a liking for a sort of stylistic coherence in the self description, without footnotes from others.

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If I wrote a column in a magazine or paper... you have the right of reply, but not instantly and publicly! If I wrote a book, you could reply to me directly, or publicise your own response in your own way, but my book wouldn't provide an instant forum for discussion for you.

Just because we've entered the electronic age it doesn't suddenly confer any greater rights on the reader!

Some blogs invite responses, some don't, and some vet (just like a magazine or newspaper column would!). What is the issue here? Respect the author's wishes and be done with it!

If they have I apologise

Oh, many a time I've underlined a passage and written: 'this is bollocks!' in the margin. You can't do that on a Kindle. ..does upset the library though.

This I don't get. If you've seen the harsh, and lacking in understanding replies, why would pretending you only got nice replies make things better for you? I think this is the nub of the issue. A lot of folks would instinctively recognise that as self delusion and want to criticise it. So someone who has replied, been judged to be harsh and had the reply deleted, would then feel the double whammy of being dismissed and dismissed by someone who is self deluded.

Whatever, my general point about deleting replies remains the same: It infuriates people. And people who are infuriated are unlikely to ever respect the person that infuriated them. The next thing that happens is the blogger is in a clique fighting with someone elses clique. By all means build a pink fluffy world where only nice things happen, but let's do it the hard way - by respecting people.

Or that replies from others start off hidden. This is a good way to deal with replies from trolls and other forms of wind-up merchant, by denying them the attention they're after.

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