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| hollythedolly |
on Wed 23 Nov 11, 1:50 PM to hollythedolly's blog.
I worked in a residential home as i waited to go to do a course.
It was the happiest i have ever been in my working life i had just turned 18 and i worked 4 nights a week because i felt i was the ugliest girl on the planet it never bothered me working weekends.
I still remember every single resident and they totally enriched my life i spend 10 minutes picking one resident from the pub in the evening or one of the guys from the pub would walk him back.
It effected me a great deal when he died and the fact that he asked to see me before he died and i did see him.
People have a great deal to say about the mistreatment of animals but the elderly are neglected in this country.
And it angers me, we will all need to be cared for at some stage in our lives people would do well to remember that
| 23 Nov 11, 2:04 PM MisstressvsSolicedog UK(NN), 17 mths |
What you say is very true,, i still hold with the idea that ( promoted by someone else admitadly ) that there should be BDSM themed old people's home's, after all just because your old is not to say you would enjoy some fun in the process of crumbling away Please excuse crap spelling cause i,m rubbish | ||
| 23 Nov 11, 3:38 PM Perplexion 13 mths |
The elderly were treated badly way back when I first started working with them in the early 1980s and things are still the same. We're berated by the government for not prolonging our lives by enjoying the wrong food, smoking, drinking and having other things to do rather than exercise. Our chickens will come home to roost when we go out with a bang at 65 instead of being able to look forward to a gentle retirement when there will be resourses and kind people there to gently care for us as natural wear-and-tear takes over and we become incresingly dependent. Time for a cigarette. | ||
| 23 Nov 11, 3:46 PM angellover UK(CM), 3 yrs |
I agree hollythedolly that many are being mistreated in some ways, I to started off working in care because I had no self esteem or confidence. I think not many staff even know or had training on working with volnerable adults and forget they have a choice but really heard or respected. Dog, many og the old ones inabitions have way gone so they would have a wirl of a laugh and far better than sitting in a room with loads of other oldies doing nothing... TLC and Funding needs to be looked at sadly but then every thing could be blamed on funds. The highest fences we have to climb, are those we have built within our mind | ||
| 23 Nov 11, 4:08 PM flamesdesire UK(OX), 4 yrs |
I worked in a care home as a housekeeper for a while, it was my second job and I spent a fair bit of the time not cleaning but talking to the residents.
The carer....though good at what they do....were understaffed and run off their feet all the time so taking time out for chatting was rare for them. After I left there I did not want to leave and be forgotten, I loved my time with them, chatting to them etc. so I now go up every Friday night as this is their bar night. I also went in to help out on the day of the royal wedding as they had a party....and I go in other times too. They are a tonic to a bad week and they always have a smile, a kiss and time for a chat and catch up. jxx "Take me from this earth an endless night- this, the end of life. From the dark I feel your lips and taste your bloody kiss." | ||
| 23 Nov 11, 5:47 PM tanken UK(NR), 2 yrs |
Old age can be sad. I remember my mother going from one home to another. She had a form of dementia (not Alzheimers) and although my (now late) stepfather cared for her as long as he could at his home a care home became the only option after a while. Whilst we had fun taking her out for wheelchair rides on occasions my memories of that period (1998-2002) are tinged with sadness. Whilst some may wish to end their days in a care home, personally I would rather not. Happiness is a warm bum | ||
| 23 Nov 11, 5:54 PM hollythedolly UK(NN), 2 yrs  |
Some dont get a choice so surely it needs to be the best it possibly can be If i won the lottery i would buy one and try and make it a happy place full of laughter. And train staff to treat them with dignity ohh and the ability to turn someone without dragging half a sheet with them and ensure that they gave the resident the opportunity to drink what relatives have brought in for them | ||
| 23 Nov 11, 7:15 PM tanken UK(NR), 2 yrs |
Yes, you're right.
Happiness is a warm bum | ||
| 23 Nov 11, 9:49 PM Lady_Toza_Scarlet UK, 5 yrs £ |
I couldn't agree more. I get shocked and saddened by the way the elderly are so much the butt of tasteless jokes and generally treated with a disgraceful lack of respect.
On the subject of homes, I was thinking recently that in the next 20 to 30 yrs, there will need to be some big changes in the way homes are run because there will be a new generation of old people who don't want to sit in a chair all day waiting for the next meal. They'll want something more exciting... and yes, the concept of enabling BDSM activities has cropped up recently in conversation | ||
| 24 Nov 11, 12:07 PM FairyGirl UK(YO), 3 yrs   |
Totally agree, my personal dream is to open my own care home so that all the old people could come and live in it. My nan is my only grandparent left, still in her own home but battling dementia, depression and near-constant anxiety. I try and help out as much as I can with looking after her, I only wish my peers felt the same way about the elderly people in their lives!
I love old people There's always one, and if I'm in the vicinity, it's probably me. |
