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| Mon 21 Nov 11, 3:59 PM prettyPETunia UK(WS), 4 yrs  |
I added to a blog today about some newbie being bullied off the site. How about some advice for the newbies in the registration email that gets sent on signing up? There are some people that are easily intimidated or they easily misinterpret banter as bullying. Perhaps a little note like "dont be put off by umwelcoming cocky dipsticks..." blah blah.
....or something. Perhaps a list of friendly IC'ers to contact for some reassurance or advice. If love is blind I need to find a cane | |||
| 21 Nov 11, 4:05 PM gagmequick UK(OX), 2 yrs  |
I'm in full agreement with this! I have noticed that occasionally there is a certain level of impatience and unfriendliness directed towards Newbies, which reflects very badly on our little Sub-culture. I didn't have any problems myself, when I started getting involved on here, but I noticed it several times, and maybe if I had been spoken to like that, I might well have been chased off. So, yeah something on the "Sign-up info" i a good idea. | |||
| 21 Nov 11, 4:06 PM gagmequick UK(OX), 2 yrs |
Oh and the "Newbie Friendly" list is a good one as well! | |||
| 21 Nov 11, 4:13 PM fitzcaraldo UK(BA), 6 yrs |
No-one should feel intimidated by IC, because the greatest intolerance on here is for the up-their-own-arse brigade ! So yes, there are some serial offenders, but there are loads of others who would stand in your corner if you're feeling persecuted for any reason. The perceived advice is watch and listen for a while to get a feeling for how things usually work ; there's no rules (well, nothing much) and there's no such thing as 'normal' otherwise none of us would be here ! Fitz. Escaped from the parallel universe | |||
| 21 Nov 11, 4:31 PM prettyPETunia UK(WS), 4 yrs |
Lol im thinking that first scene on inbetweeners now.! If love is blind I need to find a cane | |||
| 21 Nov 11, 4:53 PM bucksoxcouple UK(MK), 15 mths |
Fair points. We've seen both sorts - the rampant, barking idiots and the kind, down-to-earth types - in the ~extreme~ these last two days! I'm not an expert on forums but it does seem to me that compared to the others I have used (one was about boating, the other poetry) there does seem to be a lot more vitriol and intolerance on here than one would perhaps normally expect. For what little it's worth, my view is that you will get trolls regardless but I've heard Fitz's advice before and I always abide by it. If you're new, lurk for a while and find your way around before leaping in. Then you'll be better prepared (although not immune from) the idiots. | |||
| 21 Nov 11, 5:01 PM prettyPETunia UK(WS), 4 yrs |
But it seems some people feel its better to leave town cus they are a bit more sensibley cautious and nervy than me, if you see what I mean If love is blind I need to find a cane | |||
| 21 Nov 11, 5:24 PM jules9 UK(CH), 3 yrs    |
This has came up numerous times whilst I've been on IC, there's no easy cure. Not sure if the group for newbies is still up and running, but that seems like the perfect starting place!!! XxX | |||
| 21 Nov 11, 5:49 PM redvixen75 UK, 8 mths |
i found it very overwhelming when i joined, i didn't put my pic up for a bit so even without that and a fairly basic profile i got a lot of demanding and pathetic memos and messages, if i didn't respond instantly despite getting loads they turned nasty and they still do, but now i just delete them, ignore them or send them a response back telling them to go away. Although i like to be polite to everyone i have blocked someone and been fairly agressive to a few others. It's a shame if people are feeling bullied, i found lurking and turning my ic chat off now and then allowed me to investigate the site slowly and enjoy it. i turn it back on now and then and have enjoyed lots of chats. hope they at least read this thread and feel a little better xx | |||
| 21 Nov 11, 5:51 PM Goddess_Asphyxia UK, 3 yrs |
I totally agree.....people should be welcomed and nurtured, not hounded off site. This happens a fair bit and it should not to be tolerated. It is often done by those who a) dont get out and b) are some of the self appointed fet. hierarchy that believe they are better and know everything......when actually they dont. Put me on the welcome brigade list.
'Taste the whip, in love, not given lightly......taste the whip, now plead for Me !' Edited 21 Nov 11, 5:54 PM by Goddess_Asphyxia | |||
| 21 Nov 11, 6:25 PM charleeyX45 2 yrs |
ahem, it is also important peoples have the nounce to work out who / what is a gobby wrong un. Its adults doing bdsm not an embroidery swop or train signal watchin, .... if you cant stay around to get used to peoples attitudes etc, gawd help em when it came to play. As a newbie myself earlier this year, believe me, I had to learn to spot Pushy dom and Wierdooooo s. Edited 21 Nov 11, 6:27 PM by charleeyX45 |
