| 19 Nov 11, 7:44 AM subbiebrummie UK(B), 12 mths  |
100% agree with this. For me, the question is 'Who gives a flying fuck what other people think anyway?' What is normal for me is 'MY NORMAL' and no-one else's. As long as I am happy with me [and I am], and I don't hurt anyone, what goes it matter?? If I''m fucked up, fine. Compared to to this country, and the rest of the world; I am absolutely normal. | |
| 19 Nov 11, 8:06 AM fellatrix UK, 2 yrs  |
Whenever this topic arises i always think of the Bonzo Dogs lyrics (from My pink half of the drainpipe) which ends with the lines:"So Norman, if you're normal, I intend to
be a freak for the rest of my life, and I shall baffle you with cabbages and rhinoceroses in the kitchen, incessant quotations from "Now We Are
Six" through the mouthpiece of Lord Snooty's giant, poisoned, electric head, SO THEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEERE!" Who would want to be normal when you see what the alternatives are?
smartarse | |
| 19 Nov 11, 8:58 AM twilightsilence UK(ME), 16 mths |
I suddenly feel more normal. I must be, I really don't want to have a rhinoceros is my kitchen Take me on a journey and keep me safe on our travels.... | |
| 19 Nov 11, 9:57 AM MyBeautifulSelfish UK(M), 2 yrs |
I know I'm fucked up, really seriously so. I sometimes think things that I just want to bury at the back of my mind, because they shouldn't be there at all! I hope I'm putting you off? | |
| 19 Nov 11, 11:47 AM AshUK UK(EN), 7 yrs £ |
I know I'm fucked up. But I stopped worrying about it years ago. I think the question isn't so much ' are we normal ? ' or ' why are we the way we are ? ' but ' what are we going to do about it ? ' " Pow ! Right in the kisser ! " | |
| 19 Nov 11, 10:51 PM misunderstoodslave UK(OL), 2 yrs |
I've never thought I was fucked up for so much as a minute. Somewhat weird, but that's never bothered me, just interests me as it develops. "Good Lord," I think to myself, on an almost daily basis, "am I into that? Does this turn me on? How jolly. How strange. How unexpected." Not fucked up though. Liking horridness isn't fucked up. How could it be when it is so very lovely and thrilling? Durr. Of course, everyone I know thinks I'm fucked up, for other reasons than liking my arse caned regularly, but the precious gift of denial allows me to smile sweetly and remain convinced of my rationality. Just as well.
Edited 19 Nov 11, 10:52 PM by misunderstoodslave | |
| 19 Nov 11, 10:54 PM mia  UK(M), 4 yrs       |
I get very down sometimes and worry i'm a bad person for the things i like. It does make me feel fucked up and rather sad sometimes. Not always, sometimes i enjoy it and don't fret, but there is that side that i worry about. Pap. x Quick Lynn, run, they're sex people | |
| 19 Nov 11, 11:07 PM Dollface UK, 6 yrs |
I don't particularly worry about the potential of being fucked up; I like to think I'm a functional human being with a half-decent personality; and to be frank I know vanilla people who are lacking in both! I know it's not (quote/unquote) normal to enjoy some of the things we IC folk do, but then we get into the whole 'define normal' debate. When a long-term relationship ended a few years ago and I found myself single and experimenting further with kink, I did have a slight pang of "er...whut?" But I do wonder if that was more to do with unfamiliarity; and with time as my particular kinks have developed I've become wholeheartedly - some would say overly so! - relaxed with them. "The less said about life's sores, the better." | |
| 19 Nov 11, 11:11 PM twilightsilence UK(ME), 16 mths |
I think that's where I am at now. First time I've been properly single really in almost 11 years and definitely going further and further with kink. It's making me question so much about what I'm choosing to do... Take me on a journey and keep me safe on our travels.... | |
| 19 Nov 11, 11:28 PM inappropriate UK(CF), 3 yrs |
I've never really had particularly negative thoughts about my kink (although there are those times when I think I'm never going to find the right partner to share my kink with, but that's different). That said, there are a couple of things that I find hot that I'm not fully comfortable with, but they're the kind of things that aren't going to get explored in the immediate future anyway. I do feel fucked up in other ways on occasion - I have quite bad sports related injuries which limit my mobility, I have trust issues that resulted from a relationship that went badly wrong... I guess we're all a bit fucked up in some ways but, as @dollface said, as long as I'm functioning OK at work and to my friends and family, I feel like I'm doing a good enough job at not being too fucked up. |
