| 17 Nov 11, 1:08 PM Malbon UK(LS), 8 yrs   |
Service with a smile is always pleasing. But in a DS LTR I think both partners must learn to acknowledge that neither of them are perfect and apply a bit of common sense. Doing the dishes or making the dinner doesn't break my dynamic, sometimes I prefer to do things myself. But if I do give a command or instruction I expect it to be obeyed, or I expect to hear a very good reason why not, so sometimes it can be a question of using good judgement. If a submissive partner is clearly tired or dejected, then they may not respond well to instruction, and that is just human nature and not really a question of being a "good slave" or not. But then I would say it might be up to the dominant to address and change that mood of tiredness or dejection first, if he wants service. If tiredness seems to be spoiling your leisure time consider doing something active for a while, something completely different to the rest of your day - which can change your mood for the better. Or consider something like meditation, or yoga, which can have the same effect.
Sometimes of course you are both just totally knackered beyond redemption 'Who the hell wants to hear actors talk?' - Harry M. Warner, 1927 | |
| 17 Nov 11, 1:48 PM Belasarius UK(M), 8 yrs      |
Amen to the above. My goal - to save women from nature (Dior) | |
| 18 Nov 11, 7:03 PM Crystal_Eyes UK, 5 yrs  |
I get this feeling a LOT. I'm a terrible submissive - it's fine when I'm "in the mood" to serve, and I really am genuinely at my happiest when curled up at his feet watching telly or something, having been 'good' and obedient. It's absolute fucking bliss - my problems don't seem so overwhelming, I am less worried and stressed about life; I am happy, secure, safe, and loved. However, the times when I'm not in the mood to do that off my own back - when I have other things I'm doing instead, or I'm ill, or tired, or busy, or exhausted, or any number of other reasons why I don't want to stop what I'm doing to appease him - I sulk about having to obey. I feel put out by being required to change what I'm doing on a whim of his. It feels very one-sided and I'm instinctively cross and grumpy that he 'dares' to demand even *more* of me. Even though (and this is the kicker) I know that I'll be happier once I've submitted rather than fighting him on it.
I think I'm quite a rubbish submissive, too. ------------------------------------------ |
, and then it may be best to just let the DS side of things rest. There is always tomorrow. 
