What do men and/or women want from an FLR? (23)

I want to have a relationship with a man who is strong and confident enough of himself to submit wholeheartedly and without expectation of reward.

He will love and respect me so much that to him, a 24/7 D/s relationship is not only easy for him to live and thrive in, but is his perfect place.

He will trust me to do my best to make him happy. I will love him and be grateful that such a strong, wonderful, intelligent, capable man as he is will submit himself to me completely.

That man will be the antithesis of all the 'femdom' cliched weak, selfish, needy subs with his list of porno fantasy needs. He will be as manly,red blooded and masculine as any other male but so much better for his ability to temper that with humility and self control to be my most precious companion.

We will love and take care of each other in a romantic, sexual, respectful and supremely happy partnership, equal in worth, if not in power.

Ladies and Gentlemen, I give you @paulss.

Mistress of @paulss My PD blog at http://mistress-keene.blogspot.com/ http://twitter.com/#!/Mistress_Keene

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I want a submissive, a lover and a best friend.

His submission to be the kind of submission that is motivated by a desire to please. Not thinking of his own desires, but achieving happiness through service. For his greatest reward to be my love, my happiness, my guidance.

I want a man. Not a wimp. An equal as a human, but submitting to the woman he loves.

Someone who doesn't mind getting his hands dirty if required. Who enjoys the process of learning. Someone tall, attractive, attentive, adventurous, a little bit crazy. Someone kind, warm, gentle, confident. Someone who loves to pamper, worship, caress and tease. Someone in love with life. Someone with style, humour and intelligence. Someone respectful, subservient, sexual.

Someone who needs control and direction. Someone who will do what he is told with a cheery disposition even if he doesn't really want to. Someone who obeys and wants genuinely to please and serve at my feet.

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Is your answer relating to what women in a flr want from their men?

Or is it in answer to, what do men think women want?

We all want contentment but surely it is how we find that contentment which is the more interesting discovery.

Mistress of @paulss My PD blog at http://mistress-keene.blogspot.com/ http://twitter.com/#!/Mistress_Keene

Completely and utterly this

Basically I want to be with someone comfortable enough in themselves to let me be the boss - but being fully capable at all times.

I dont want to be aware / or be made aware of how every little thing is D/s - I just want it to be a fluid and comfortable dynamic that develops and happens naturally.

I dont want it to impact negatively on his masculinity in anyway. I want a man - with the benefits (strong arms to be wrapped in, the knowledge that he could defend my honour if needed and handiness around the house) and the down sides (bodily noises, sport etc).

Its that contrast - the ruggedness vs the submimission (or any sweet thoughtful "vanilla" act) that has always attracted me.

I think the biggest difference will come in the definition of the word Led.

I can lead you by the nose, or I can herd you towards a goal. Both are methods of leadership.

I think many women, myself included, would rather redirect a man's energy towards the goals we set (the herding analogy), whereas, I think many men - particularly those with the fantasy dominatrix in mind - are all fitted up with the nose ring ready to be dragged (often times kicking and screaming) to the finish.

The idea of a man being strong and masculine supports the herding approach - we want to guide that strength and energy so it can be best used for our benefit. A weak man, incapable of acting without direction - or worse, fighting guidance as a means of drawing attention, is of little use. He is merely a distraction and a waste of our energies.

- Rika

Edited 13 Nov 11, 2:46 AM by Ms_Rika

I'd like one who, when told to "Jump", says "How high?" not "Why?".

@The_Coven / @The_Problem_Page, you might give the advice that someone needs. / I want the "Moon on a stick and the Stars suspended from bunting". / So many haystacks, so few needles! / Conserve conversation and converse about conservation!

The "led" too, for me, is misleading. Because for me, it should just flow and move together naturally. The "led" really only comes into play in decision-making and other circumstances, because everyone knows their place and job.

If a submissive is already at the level where they serve with joy, ask "how high" and are proactive (one of my main requirements), then the relationship we have as a dynamic isn't one of orders, discipline and checking to see if things are completed. We can get on with the good stuff and take it to another level.

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It would be trite and disingenuous for me to say 'whatever she wants': I do have needs.

What if what she wants makes me miserable?

I'm just out of a serious FLR.

The relationship ended with me feeling rather traumatised and used. Which wasn't even her fault.

What I'd like from an FLR is one with the right woman. Everything else is immaterial.

Let's televise and broadcast the raping of kings.