Guidance please. (24)

1, Do I just bend her over something furniture bed knee and spank her?

2, Do I use my hand, or something else.

3, Is there role play involved ie youve been a bad girl?

Any advice would be gratefully recieved.

Everyone is different. The only person who can answer those questions is your partner. You need to ask her.

The difficult part is done in revealing to you that she wants to be spanked. So relax and start a conversation.

Edited 10 Nov 11, 12:16 PM by Baron_Samedi

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Take her out for a quiet romantic meal somewhere where you can talk privately and ask her what she wants.

The Dominant leads at the Submissives pace!!

The fact that you're posting here suggests that there's an appeal in it for you too, so my biggest piece of advice is find something in it that you find hot. Make sure it's within her limits (assuming she has some) and then go for it. Trust me, she'll enJoy it much more if she knows you are too!!!

In terms of the what to do, very generic piece of starting advice, start sensually, softly, use your hand and build it up gradually. Watch her reactions, (knowing before hand if she wants to enJoy it, or enJoy the sensation of not enJoying it will help), and take it from there.

Generally nomminess includes belts, tied hands, hair brushes, slippers/shoes and any other instruments you can lay your hands on. IMO the key to a good spanking is variation, remember you don't have to hit her with everything as hard as you can, for most people I doubt this would be a good experience.

Role play is great fun, again, find something that works for you both!

Have fun!!!

XxX

1, Do I just bend her over something furniture bed knee and spank her? Yes if you both would enjoy that, its a perfectly reasonable starting point! Its the sort of thing you could just do in a fun messing about kind of way and if it feels right go with it.

2, Do I use my hand, or something else? Probably your hand at first, if you are useing your bare hand you can feel exactly how hard you are hitting and how much the skin warms up. Then if you feel comfortable there are all kinds of things to be found around the house to experiement with, slippers, wooden spoons, belts, hairbrushes etc. With anything new, start light and slow and intensify if you are both happy with the way things are going. On the bare ass cheeks you can't do a massive amount of serious damage with fairly broad surfaced hitty things if you are a bit careful.

3, Is there role play involved ie youve been a bad girl? Yes, if you are both into that and comfortable with it, no if you are not. You can start with a few phrases thrown in 'Naughty girl' etc don't worry if it sounds cheesy or funny at first, its supposed to be fun. If you both enjoy that you can build on it to become a full role play type dialogue, her acting as a naughty school girl/lazy secretary/bratty teen or whatever and you acting as a strict school master or boss or whatever you are into.

There really are not any rules as long as everyone involved is a consenting adult and having fun. You need to keep safety in mind but ass spanking is not a particularly dangerous activity. Do what gets you both off.

You'll figure out #1. Whatever makes you and/or her happy is the best spot.

#2 is lots of fun to pick. I like hand spanking when I do that but hairbrush backs, slippers, straps, spatulas, paddles, and all sorts of things will do. Entire shopping trips can be warped for kink as you look for new hitty things. If you hand spank- do take care of your own skin and bones because you can hurt yourself spanking other people.

#3 is up to the two of you as well. Picking the roleplay is as much fun as picking the implement for some people.

Don't forget that this is supposed to be fun for both of you. You may or may not like how you feel about hurting someone else with their consent.

SinPar

-- The weak are the most treacherous of us all. They come to the strong and drain them. They are bottomless. They are insatiable. They are always parched and always bitter. They are everyone's concern, and like vampires they suck our life's blood. (Bette Davis)

Edited 10 Nov 11, 12:32 PM by SinPar

Plan to talk with her about what she likes and how. Then go from there.

basicly you get the idea of her game play as per suggestions above but also your own attunment to this is important as and i sure you won't but avoid being wishy-washy take thing's in hand,

very best

Please excuse crap spelling cause i,m rubbish

There's been a lot of good advice in this thread so far. Perhaps the most important is that we are all different and what X loves, Y hates. There's nothing wrong with grabbing her hair (quite a few women love this, it's worth finding out if your partner does) pushing her over your knee and using your other hand to spank. This is ideal for an impromptu spanking.

Your kitchen and bedroom will contain useful items if you want some variety. Wooden spoons, silicone spatulas, belts, slippers are all very handy. Some couples find the act of a the man removing his belt from his trousers and using it on her bottom a great turn on. Just make sure your trousers will stay up without the belt

And I just love the heat that radiates from her well spanked bottom.

Have fun finding out what you both enjoy.

Edited 10 Nov 11, 2:23 PM by leopard99