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| 10 Nov 11, 11:31 AM jules9 UK(CH), 3 yrs     |
It is an intensely vulnerable thing, that's what makes it soooo good!!! Thoughts alone in the dark are absolutely horrible so utterly real, they're the ones I don't find hot in the moment, but the whole thing wouldn't work without them... XxX
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| 10 Nov 11, 12:21 PM dryad_x UK(YO), 7 mths |
After this thread I'm thinking more that I really want to try it! Umm... I keep wondering how you go about finding the woman though, any thoughts? Not that he's actually agreed to this, but I can keep hoping... | |
| 10 Nov 11, 12:43 PM jules9 UK(CH), 3 yrs |
This is the bit we're actually finding the most difficult. There aren't that many women out there who say "yes, I'd get off on fucking your boyfriend and do so knowing you aren't enJoying it on one level or another". Add in other complications, like we don't do poly, or if there's someone I simply don't get on with he'll stay away from them, and it suddenly becomes a very small pool. Add in the even more difficult find of someone you all get on with and your head really does start hurting! That said, when you find these women, oh my wow are they worth it and very much treasured by you both. Swinging sites are difficult, but have paid off, mostly we've benefited from some amazing and equally as perverted friends!!! XxX | |
| 10 Nov 11, 3:35 PM ohstory UK(EC), 9 mths  |
What a lovely conversation to stumble across on a Thursday afternoon! Well, I say stumble.. my boyfriend actually sent me the link because of conversations we've been having of late. It's strange how, even when you're on a site such as this, open to ideas and exposed to all manner of kink, you can still feel quite lonely in your desires and feelings. For us, sex involving other people has been something we've wanted to explore more and more. And strangely enough, even though I battle quite intense jealousy pangs, it's me who seems to be driving the idea of watching him with someone else. He would never suggest anything he didn't think would work for both of us, but it's me who seems to be steering towards it. I didn't really understand why, because I know it will drive me crazy with jealousy, but I can't seem to get the idea out of my head. I guess, like you said, it's about complete control, once and for all being forced to realise that it's not about my pleasure, it's about his. Reading this thread has really helped, and I'm realising that the jealousy is actually part of it, not an unwanted side effect. It's just degradation on a whole new level, a completely true and pure level. Knowing that I'm not alone in treading the fine line between an ultimate turn-on and true jealousy, that it's quite normal to feel both and want to embrace both, well that's quite brilliant. I guess I thought that it wasn't an issue for other people, that jealousy didn't come into it. Thanks for sharing. x | |
| 10 Nov 11, 3:51 PM steved14 UK(TW), 5 yrs |
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| 10 Nov 11, 4:10 PM etty_face UK(S), 4 yrs |
My dear Orbital is a rather Sadist fellow and whilst I hate the thought of him fucking another woman, I want him to have the opportunity to unleash his evilness on someone who does immediately try to roll into a sobbing ball of snot and mascara. I LOVE the idea of him being sadistic to another woman but I'm not entirely sure how I'd react to him fucking another woman. I'd be interested to find out though... He's let another man use me- and at first I wanted to slap him as I couldn't understand how he could so easily watch another man having sex with me and not care. Now I just find it it hot. I think to be able to stand watching your partner have sex with someone else you need to have a solid relationship. I trust my partner and I trust in his love for me- so I definitely feel ready to try this. | |
| 10 Nov 11, 4:26 PM DT1974 UK(TN), 8 yrs |
It can be rather fun. Glad you found you like it ! Although not a regular occurrence it has been known for my husband to find a man he wants me to fuck, and indeed I enjoy seeing others fuck him.
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| 10 Nov 11, 9:10 PM whosthatgirl UK(SE), 5 yrs |
This is definitely something that excites me too - I have experienced a little of it in the past, but would love to do so again. Finding the right person to introduce to the mix, is definitely not easy though, so any tips/insights on that would be most welcome... though I imagine it's more down to luck than any set formula. | |
| 10 Nov 11, 10:09 PM misunderstoodslave UK(OL), 2 yrs |
It would be so unbearably dreadful for me, either way, that I often fantasise about it. I'm a tad masochistic! But as people often and sensibly say on here - if you meet a couple for horridness, of whatever kind, it's most likley to be all about them and their dynamic. | |
| 10 Nov 11, 10:22 PM Tightbreeches UK(CB), 2 yrs |
Yes it's a fine balance, too much thinking reflection in the past and now for myself-distance currently. Having been the one advocating their involvement with other women and then enjoying the submission they feel, to now being the "loved- up" one, feeling vulnerable and giving to their enjoyment while i'm on the otherside of the earth.very different, But it is a dynamic i will be interested to see how i evolve into/ through. i don't know how safe i feel to take the sub role in playing together? that's a whole lot of vulnerable.
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