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| Wed 9 Nov 11, 12:24 PM jules9 UK(CH), 3 yrs     |
It's taken a hell of a Journey, but it seems this is most definitely what I am. The feelings created when he fucks someone else like this are amazing, he's left with a mushy, uber submissive version of me. We started out with plain old swinging, which was all very nice, but in all honesty really didn't do that much for me. As soon as it became about him, about what he wants, about denying or using me for their pleasure then I'm a puddle on the floor. I hate the idea of him fucking someone else, but it turns me on SOOOOOO much that he'll do it anyway, right in my face; the idea of him not fucking anyone else is devastating, I seriously don't want to imagine a life without this now. It's all about the emotional masochism for me (although I'd be lying if I said it didn't work for me physically too), I find that at those times I'm the sub I've always wanted to be. He can have anything he wants, any of my usual brattiness or cheek is out of the window, anything that might normally be classed as a limit is gone all melted into this intense desire to please and to serve. Hell, last night involved another woman, a strap on an a very alternative spit roast. If asked about that a week ago, I'd probably still be laughing now. Instead it turned into one of the hottest things ever.
It is always about their pleasure, about the two of them getting what they want. In my head it's hotter for me to have no involvement, although that said if its base and degrading involvement then I may have been known to change my mind He keeps me safe, he knows what works and what doesn't and he'll play me like a puppet on a string. I see him thriving in this power and I feel utterly complete. The few days after I'm still as submissive as hell, I can drop and quite severely, but at that point I never know if I want him to cuddle me and tell me stories, or tie me to the bottom of the bed and ignore me while he fucks someone else. I'd love to hear from anyone with experiences in this, with ideas, opinions or thoughts. Anyone is welcome to comment, but if you have any experience all the better. I'm not interested in hearing about the rights or wrongs of it, I'm completely taken care of thank you very much. I'm also not particularly interested in poly relationships as this will never lead to that, it is all about sexual pleasure with consenting adults. | |
| 9 Nov 11, 12:37 PM dryad_x UK(YO), 7 mths |
I have no experience to share with you, but I'm glad you posted this! It's something I really want to try, but I worry about the aftermath, so it's useful to hear how it's working for you. I'll be watching with interest! | |
| 9 Nov 11, 12:59 PM jules9 UK(CH), 3 yrs |
It's something we've been incredibly considerate about - far more than most would I'd imagine. We've explored verbally lots of different scenarios, we don't really have limits as such, but there are places he wouldn't take me to because they'd be damaging. Regular fuck buddies for him is most definitely encouraged, but another relationship would destroy ours. I think once he is aware of your limits in an area, it's time to hand the lot over and trust him to keep you undamaged.
We've only been exploring this a few months now, but all that it has brought for us is positives (unless you include the deep negative of life getting in the way of our fun from time to time XxX Edited 9 Nov 11, 1:31 PM by jules9 | |
| 9 Nov 11, 1:28 PM dryad_x UK(YO), 7 mths |
Thanks. I'm sure he'd be very considerate- so much so that I'm not sure if he'll actually do it, but I'm even more keen to do it now! Maybe I'll show him this thread | |
| 9 Nov 11, 2:42 PM lafautrice 2 yrs |
Aw no you are right, it is so unbelievably hot, I have watched the filthy man i adore fucking other women, and I love it so so much. I haven't yet been tied up in a corner watching, but I am hoping someday soon (  ) that'll happen!
I don't really drop, I feel unbelievably turned on, and, like you say, subby and mushy!
have fun! | |
| 9 Nov 11, 4:58 PM jules9 UK(CH), 3 yrs |
We really are doing! Thanks for sharing, I realise there must be plenty more of us out there, but trying to find them to share experiences with isn't that easy! XxX | |
| 9 Nov 11, 5:19 PM Cum_again UK(SM), 7 mths |
I introduced my GF to bi-sex by having a 3-some with another woman and she said when she first saw me fucking the other woman she was first shocked/horrified and then got really turned on! We did make sure my GF got treated really well by both of us together though and her on her own with the other woman. | |
| 9 Nov 11, 5:30 PM AshUK UK(EN), 7 yrs £ |
Very hot idea. Mmm. " Pow ! Right in the kisser ! " | |
| 9 Nov 11, 5:57 PM poutanaki UK(M), 10 yrs |
No experience, but yeah something I am very curious about myself. And the subject of many fantasies when I have... erm... some "alone" time. You are so pretty when you're on your knees. Disinfected, eager to please. | |
| 9 Nov 11, 6:39 PM mia  UK(M), 4 yrs        |
I get REALLY jealous and he's played on it at times, which in turn turns me on, but often much later than the initial jealousy. x Edited cos i came across all wrong. Quick Lynn, run, they're sex people Edited 14 Nov 11, 7:50 PM by mia | |
| 9 Nov 11, 8:51 PM GirlAfraid UK, 3 yrs |
It's always nice to see a thread on this, I think people are unsure about talking about it because it feels like such an intensely vulnerable thing. I think it's the hottest thing since sliced pudding (not an actual phrase) but it makes me anxious to talk about it openly. I get varying levels of paranoia that people will think my husband doesn't think I'm hot or that they can just steal him from me - that his head would be easily turned... It's all ridiculous really, but also so easily conceivable alone in the dark with your thoughts. Hot though. And well done for making it work for you. |
