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| Mon 7 Nov 11, 11:41 PM MusicianMan UK(CF), 5 yrs   |
So recently I think people have discovered im a dominant in this kinky lifestyle..... So I login to fb, 200 + people removed me and lots of inbox messages saying im a pervert and stuff! I was not expecting such a ridiculous reaction from people, its crazy =/ Granted theres probably been Chinese whispers so im sure what ever has been heard has worsened over the day but wow vanilla's are really quite judgemental =/ | |
| 7 Nov 11, 11:43 PM Grasshopper UK(SE), 2 yrs |
Yep. It's a terrible old saw, but it's generally pretty true - those who mind don't matter; those who matter don't mind. Any idea how it got out? Basically as I am seeink it, Ray, the problem is that you are not callink your girlfriend for five months. You see, the hot babies like to feel wanted. If you are not callink them on the phone for a while, it is like a way of saying "you are worst song, played on ugliest guitar" | |
| 7 Nov 11, 11:48 PM harley_quimm UK, 4 yrs |
ohh nooess a scary perv.. at least the boring people have cleaned up for you  Viva la Résistance. | |
| 8 Nov 11, 12:02 AM anne_marie  UK(SE), 5 yrs |
welcome to the wonderfull world of 'out' - some of them will come crawling back asking questions ... how do I know ??? I am out and same old, same old.
If the above post upsets you please contact xAdamx He WILL punish me. | |
| 8 Nov 11, 12:11 AM Romola UK, 7 yrs |
Delete and block. It's not hard. It's only a weblog | |
| 8 Nov 11, 12:16 AM The_Dark_Prince UK(WR), 4 yrs |
All my friends know and always have known. I mention that I'm sadistic in my profile on FB. Never had a problem. Mind you I don't think I actually know 200+ people in real life. Not actual friends anyway. Be the change you want to see in the world. - Gandhi. | |
| 8 Nov 11, 1:48 AM Ropework UK(OX), 3 yrs |
I guess it depends on the way you communicate your interests, and your social surroundings. Nearly everyone I know has a pretty clear idea about the fact that I enjoy tying up girls, and that it's very damn important to me that said girls also enjoy it. That way I've forestalled most questionable rumours. - In addition, I guess I have it easy, with educated, thoughtful, and liberal friends and colleagues, so the idea of consensual play with trust and power makes perfect sense to nearly all of them. In fact, in my current university surroundings, friends (and some relative strangers) joke good naturedly about my penchant for BDSM ("He's the guy to see if you haven't done your essay and need a bit of a spanking"), and I have been known to introduce myself more or less along the lines of "Hi, my name is [insert name here], and I tie up, tease, and pleasure girls for fun". Interestingly, that has never produced a negative response, even from the few US Republicans and other assorted Conservatives we have here. I think my advice is: be proactive, fun, and natural about your communications. If you talk about it like it's something shameful and dirty, people will conclude that you are doing something shameful and dirty. :-:-: Ropework :-:-: Edited 8 Nov 11, 1:49 AM by Ropework | |
| 8 Nov 11, 2:35 AM MusicianMan UK(CF), 5 yrs |
Wish i had the chance to explain it all but people like to play chinese whispers etc. Granted those who removed me i had never met so im not bothered as I would never meet them but they are pretty much making me feel lost now. I think i might need to join the community here more so i can have some one to socialise with that is also understanding the whole thing. The names i've been called is rediculous. | |
| 8 Nov 11, 3:03 AM maid_in_nottingham 11 mths |
I usually find that people with hundreds of 'friends' on facebook probably only know about 6 of them. | |
| 8 Nov 11, 3:10 AM MusicianMan UK(CF), 5 yrs |
Yeh i don't know that well i just knew them from school days. | |
| 8 Nov 11, 3:50 AM Pinderella UK, 2 yrs |
No longer on Fbk. Had a very bad experience as a result of having a profile there. A less public experience than yours, but quite unpleasant even so. I'm with @Grasshopper on this one though. It's almost always the case that those who matter don't mind. |
