Welcome guests or party poopers ? (34)

This is not me having a pop at not_a_member - or indeed at any guest on this site - but I'm really not sure I'm comfortable with people coming onto the site either to gawp at the perverts, or to laugh at the crazies.

I can understand that people might want to have a look around before they join - and that some people might feel more comfortable watching rather than participating.

But do we really want our innermost thoughts and goings-on shared with people who are not only not involved in the lifestyle, but ( in some cases ) don't even have an interest in kink ?

Would welcome other views..

" Pow ! Right in the kisser ! "

Let them be, all they see are words and a few pictures here... it's not like they are in our houses with us.

@The_Coven / @The_Problem_Page, you might give the advice that someone needs. / I want the "Moon on a stick and the Stars suspended from bunting". / So many haystacks, so few needles! / Conserve conversation and converse about conservation!

The absence of a guest facility would exclude those who just want to have a look around before jumping in, and so allows those with a genuine interest, who may be a little shy, nervous or uncertain, to dip their toe in the water before taking the plunge.

It's like having a shop. Some come to browse, others to buy, and others still have no interest at all and just want to get in out of the rain.

Oh, we're *not* supposed to do that here? Oops

My initial reaction was the same actually but then we are all aware that anything we post is viewable to all, members or not. One of the reasons I bit the bullet and joined IC was because I could read everything and get a feel for the place before having to sign up.

Not so keen on the thought of people doing the pointing and laughing at me thing but then, they don't usually post to say they are, ignorance is bliss

However, I do think that if someone does want to come in and have a mooch around, they can bloody well join up. It's not exactly much effort, is it? You can join up as bloody mickey mouse and just lurk for ever and a day for all I care, but join up anyway!

So no... I don't like the open access for any ol' perve. And I'm sorry, but loitering around a perve's website makes you a perve in my book .

How could you stop this, though, short of a members-only and invitation-only site?

"Morality, like art, means drawing a line someplace." - Oscar Wilde

Well, up and until today I would have agreed with you - but the thread I referenced has made me think twice about it..

" Pow ! Right in the kisser ! "

I lurked for three years because all I used the site for was to laugh at the personal ads. There is a great deal of value to be had gawping at the crazies and freaktoids, imho.

I use a n other site which I consider 'safer' to be more myself, inasmuchas you can't get on to it without being a member, and most eejits are too thick to be able to navigate it, and I find this site incredibly parochial so I don't interact with topics which I might well do were they on a n other site.

deely bopperishly

synd

Pour encourager les autres

Edited 3 Nov 11, 6:22 PM by syndeetoo

Simple answer. Don't put anything up that you think might shame you later in life.

Owner of The Croppery Dungeon and Breakfast. Organises The St Leonards munch.