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| 2 Nov 11, 9:53 PM MisstressvsSolicedog UK(NN), 17 mths  |
i think you have it there,, as you had said so many actual sadist step under the umbrella and cause real damage to real people but to take a viewpoint that you would not ask anyone to do anything you wouldn't, ( given sanity etc obviously ) is probley the best Please excuse crap spelling cause i,m rubbish | |
| 2 Nov 11, 10:03 PM ClassAct2005 UK(N), 7 yrs  |
I suppose this is why it's so important the sub ends up with someone compatibile to her and her values. If he's a drug user or thief or beats children or even in less extreme terms has very different values from the sub then it's dangerous. If you know you're very submissive then you know someone you love and submit to can make you do al ot of things. It's why I always say the mental submission is the riskiest edge play there is really as you're giving up your whole self and life to his life in a sense which is riskier than just submitting to someone who might use an implement on you harder than you want.
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| 3 Nov 11, 12:52 AM misunderstoodslave UK(OL), 2 yrs |
I normally come on IC to reassure myself that I'm not a freakshow (well, not compared to the rest of you) but in this case I think it's me that's the weirdo. Because I actually quite like that he can make me do stuff against my own personal moral code. He's a harsher person than me, bears grudges more easily, so he sometimes makes me be quite difficult or awkward to people he doesn't like at work, or refrain from helping others who I normally would. I find that really hard, as I hate to be mean, but I quite like the control. I suppose, as others have said, it's because I'm confident he's not all that different from me in his values that I can assume he won't ask for anything too awful. I think he might make me steal or lie to upset/control me, if he were in a devilish enough mood. And I would. | |
| 22 Nov 11, 10:16 PM lapetitemort55 UK(E), 4 yrs |
@ souxi ( have prob spelt that wrong) Sorry to op , just need to reply, without wanting 2 take over your thread. I didn't say ew thats gross anywhere and it would be too simple to have said that. That's what you have taken from it your jot alone though , lots of people jumped on that bandwagon when I orginally posted it , which is why I wish I had perhaps worded it differently. I have to take it on the chin that maybe I could have been more tactful about it and I should perhaps have stuck to a more safe generic question whereby everyone can quite elaboratly describe their own preferences and judgements but in a general not directed at one thing or another kind of way. Far safer. Don't regret asking those questions though. If I hadn't been genuinely seeking some understanding I would have just stuck to private judgements made in the safe confines of a private conversation. Anyway its a bit old hat now. U wanna discuss more please feel free to message me. The absence of apostrophes is to get you .. yes .. it is. Grating yet ? | |
| 22 Nov 11, 11:28 PM MisstressvsSolicedog UK(NN), 17 mths |
oh your more than welcome to ask or say anything ,, i think when a threads life has ran it's course, then why not put in, Please excuse crap spelling cause i,m rubbish |
