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| 28 Oct 11, 7:02 PM twilightsilence UK(ME), 16 mths  |
I don't think I could comfortably use a flogger/whip or strap on with a Dom but if he wanted me to scratch etc, then why not. Surely I should be willing to do what makes him feel good. I'm nowhere near as innocent as I look | |||
| 28 Oct 11, 7:06 PM mq1965 UK(DA), 8 yrs |
I don't think it is at all unusual, and indeed spreads into other dynamics as well. I wrote a blog about it a few years ago, so won't re-write it all - it's here if you can be bothered to follow the link: http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/163115/
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| 28 Oct 11, 9:43 PM clubslut UK(B), 4 yrs  |
 When it comes to BDSM there are those that will insist there are right ways and wrong ways of doing things. The only thing that matters though is that if you can find out what works well for both of you then anyone else's opinions don't really matter. A friend with a flogger/cane/crop/pinwheel/violet wand/set of needles/strap on/etc. is a friend indeed | |||
| 28 Oct 11, 10:05 PM lady_Acapella UK(B), 7 mths |
I am pure sadist so any thing causing me pain will certainly get a severe beating, the thought of asking a sub to inflict pain on oneself (re: me) does not exist to my way of thought. Would not in any part of this universe except the thought or contemplate it. So to all my serving present, past and future do not get any ideas GRRRRROWL.
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| 28 Oct 11, 10:12 PM azreal015 UK(IP), 10 mths |
i love being hurt (biten scratched clawed) but then again i also like my partner to have some fight in her  n i have told them to do it before now too. | |||
| 28 Oct 11, 10:40 PM Quality_Control2 UK(SO), 9 mths |
This ^^^^^. I do so enjoy reading the threads but have happily and quickly come to the conclusion that it's all about 'do want you like'. There's no real instruction manual, we come to it at different times of our life, so... sod those who may disapprove. It really is not a box ticking thing; it's our own sexuality(ies). Christ, imagine if the whole D/s dynamic was based on laid down rules from which one should not deviate (unless you are a cheeky sub etc...). Hell on earth. | |||
| 29 Oct 11, 11:41 AM misunderstoodslave UK(OL), 2 yrs |
I don't think those on this thread who have said they wouldn't like it have suggested they diapprove of others who do. But I like to see people's different views, and some are up for a bit of service-topping from their subs, and their subs like it (or do it because ordered to!) and then some aren't and don't. It's not a value judgment either way. I'm with CA on this in the latter camp - I would dislike it if I had to hurt a partner as I would hate to inflict pain, and also my only D/s experience has been with a man who would never dream of wanting to be hurt, so I think if he did I would feel my security in the dynamic challenged. | |||
| 29 Oct 11, 12:08 PM Reggor UK(BS), 18 mths |
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| 29 Oct 11, 12:28 PM lady_Acapella UK(B), 7 mths |
I know ive posted on here my view, but I really must state I agree with this comment. 'Fuck em' I do think we are all individuals and the small minded are the users of box's. Live an let live an if you don't like it 'Fuck off' lol.
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| 29 Oct 11, 8:41 PM skadii UK(W), 5 yrs |
The Captain has on occasion ordered me to tie her up and hit her a bit. The first time I tried this, I had to be in a *very* submissive mindset and make it about obedience rather than anything else - and that worked. Service topping has its merits. I've got better at it, and although I'm still not very good at hitting I've discovered that I do have a mean streak hidden in there. I'm not sure that this is so much topping as enhanced bratting though. It might sound odd but it's not always all that easy to draw a line between the two. |
