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| 24 Oct 11, 10:09 PM ClassAct2005 UK(N), 7 yrs  |
Surprised me too. Surely a man would prefer a woman who doesn't meet a man and go right into sex with him then and there. Don't most men want someone discriminatin g. I've met a lot of men over the years and most I've not been attracted to on a first meeting. I think that's fine. If you went into a bar how many men would you fancy? Of course you'll meet a lot and not take it further. I don't think that gets you a reputation because I would very much hope the people you meet aren't exchanging notes about you with other people. How could they possibly know each other anyway unless you were very unlucky. In fact surely it's the other way round - so desperate to get laid goes to bed with every man she ever meets ...is the reputation you might get if you accept 100% of the men you meet. You might be lucky and fall in love with the first one and you do read about people marrying the first person they ever met over the internet which is very sweet and lovely but I would say that's the exception.
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| 24 Oct 11, 10:25 PM simply_sub_lime UK(SP), 2 yrs  |
I think you are well within your rights to meet as many potential new partners as you like, until and unless you agree to submit to anyone on an exclusive basis, and especially to discover if that "chemistry" that has appeared to be there from your online, phone, text or video communications is there in "real time". Whilst I agree with the concept of munches, around here they are few and far between, and although I have only managed to attend one which was poorly attended, I have friends who have also experienced low numbers at localish ones. Meeting anyone for a "nilla" drink or lunch to find out if you both want to take things further also gives you both chance to take a step back and if you choose to, say no thanks not this time. There is nothing which says you have to play, and to my mind, a real Dom isnt gonna be asking for "proof" of your intentions. A few try it on, thats human nature, and whether you agree to or not is up to you, but if you do dont be surprised if you never hear from them again!!!
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| 24 Oct 11, 10:27 PM Clodmin UK(OX), 3 yrs |
I think the best course of action is for you to have sex with everyone who sends you a memo. How else will you find out whether it was a good idea to have slept with them? ETA: memo sent. Here are some small words for you to look at. Aren't they tiny! | |||
| 24 Oct 11, 10:51 PM Twistee UK(BA), 3 yrs  |
Great plan. I'd better go and see how many memos I've got ........ Dammit! ~Twistee~
Everything is better with a twist | |||
| 24 Oct 11, 11:30 PM Clodmin UK(OX), 3 yrs |
Memo sent Here are some small words for you to look at. Aren't they tiny! | |||
| 24 Oct 11, 11:39 PM AshUK UK(EN), 7 yrs £ |
Shit, I've got a memo from Clodmin in my inbox. Now I'm afraid to read it.. I think we should set up D/s speed dating. Who would be up for that ? ETA: Clodmin, on reflection, why not ? Let's go for it. Bring your pringles tin.. " Under this playful, boyish exterior beats the heart of a ruthless, sadistic maniac " | |||
| 24 Oct 11, 11:42 PM twilightsilence UK(ME), 16 mths |
I think there does have to be a degree of selectiveness with this theory...
If not....well <shudder> I'm nowhere near as innocent as I look | |||
| 24 Oct 11, 11:45 PM Clodmin UK(OX), 3 yrs |
Everyone has a memo from Clodders in their inbox. You don't think I get laid this much by accident, do you? Nope. Sure, having dick like a kick-stool and a torso like an indoor climbing wall has its advantages, but mainly it's pure elbow grease. Knocking on doors. I call it 'cuntvassing'. Anyway, I'll spare you the trouble of opening it. It says, "Dear Mr UK, May I call you Ash? Excellent. Now fucking KNEEL BITCH. Lots of love, Clod" I tend not to mention the Pringles tin until we've met IRL and I've had a chance to hypnotise you with my hypnodiscs. Here are some small words for you to look at. Aren't they tiny! | |||
| 24 Oct 11, 11:59 PM Crystal_Eyes UK, 5 yrs   |
<-- does not have a memo from Clodmin & feels left out. ------------------------------------------ | |||
| 25 Oct 11, 12:05 AM Crystal_Eyes UK, 5 yrs |
That's a somewhat generalised statement! I'd wager there are an equal number of men for whom refusing to sleep with them on the first date purely to adhere to societal convention when both parties actually want to take it to the next level is just as much of a deal-breaker. It can be seen as a kind of game-play, and there are plenty of men who find that kind of attitude tiresome (not to mention out-dated). ------------------------------------------ |
