Chastity device only comes off 5 times a year (48)

The last time I allowed release, he lasted five minutes!

~ It is always by way of pain one arrives at pleasure ~

My own sub at home is not locked up for long periods but instead must be in the device whenever he is not with me. At work, out shopping or do hobbies except cycling when common sense dictates that the device and it will not be compatible.

Other subs, in my PD life are locked up for longer periods of time up to about a three month max ever.

I prefer chastity to be used as a method of locking away a well teased cock for shorter periods, then brought out and teased again and so on than just locking the cock up and forgetting about it. They still don't get to come but they are 'used' more and often seem more frustrated than those who are just locked up and left.

A Fine Norfolk Domme. Mistress of @paulss My PD blog at http://mistress-keene.blogspot.com/

I also have played quite a bit with chastity with my subs. It's a great game and a fun set of toys. I too enjoy Tease and Denial - and have noticed the same phenomenon mentioned above - that a frequently teased and denied man is far more 'uncomfortable' than one that is locked and forgotten.

But the condition of being able to submit to me is that submission is unconditional.

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Love it... couldn't agree more, it's what I have been saying for years but finding the man to "fit" my desires is not an easy task.

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Edited 28 Oct 11, 7:13 AM by chartreuse

Yes, have to agree here. Submission, in my opinion, is the starting point and chastity is something which only works for me, if I know the sub could be equally well behaved without it.

Locking up naughty boys who can't stop wanking is boring to me. The submission I got would be fairly meaningless and 'bought' with force. It would not constitute submission from the whole person and certainly not from place where it mattered.

It is true that many subs do say their ability to serve is ruined by being allowed an orgasm as they are less horny and therefore 'less submissive'. I couldn't have a full time sub who was like that as it would mean I had to keep him chaste permanently which would be dull for me or accept periods of poor submission which would make me feel like a fraud and somewhat compromised.

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Dude its cool to be a submissive from your heart & a horny submissive. I know my Lady loves me being lovingly subservient to Her (in every possible way) & getting turned on by Her. There are times im such a randy sub Most of the time im just wanting to see Her content, happy, peaceful, smiley ... else i know whats coming

Just being at that happy balance with a woman.

Exactly.

Yet so many male subs seem to think this is what locked chastity is all about.

I find the gap between my views on chastity and male subs' views on chastity, is about as wide as it can be at times.

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Edited 28 Oct 11, 1:15 PM by Miss_OL

Being submissive within a long term relationship does not require chastity in my view. It does require a genuine need to surrender everything to one woman and for the female to take the lead and be dominant when she needs to be or simply because she wants it that way. In jargon terms TPE is just that - Total

I think chastity serves a different purpose altogether it allows the female to maintain her submissive in a state of near arousal 24/7 if she chooses. This in turn enhances his desire to serve and worship her 24/7… so, I think chastity will certainly enhance submission, but based on my limited experience it will not create it

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