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| Thu 20 Oct 11, 10:01 PM kirsty_m 18 mths  |
I've found that since realising i'm a sub, i've got far more in touch with the kid in me. Especially when i slide into my subbie head state - apparently i sometimes shift into real little girl body language/voice/reactions (this isn't in age play scenes). I'd be really interested in other people's thoughts about this connection. I'm guessing it's something to do with letting yourself be vulnerable, having someone you trust be in control or something similar. But what do you think? kirsty x | |
| 20 Oct 11, 10:03 PM twilightsilence UK(ME), 16 mths  |
I know exactly what you mean. When my ex got cross with me, it could put me into the frame of mind as if I was 12 years old and had upset my parents. He had to make a massive detour on his way to a conference before as I had worked myself up into such a state over him being cross with me! Approach with caution.....I may not have had my coffee! | |
| 22 Oct 11, 7:24 AM MyBeautifulSelfish UK(M), 2 yrs |
Back along when I first met the girl I used to have she began almost immediately and quite naturally behaving like a little girl. When pressed about it she reckoned on being around nine years old. Although in her late twenties she was quite young looking, and she seemed natural rather than playing at it. I found the whole thing rather enchanting although I fully expected that to wear off. It didn't, she grew on me. | |
| 22 Oct 11, 7:54 AM naughtyskibunny UK(SW), 2 yrs |
The detour...how lovely The young twenty growing on you....so lovely Being over a strong, commanding knee....utterly lovely. For me, it's the being envelopped. Someone older (not too much older, bigger, taller and stronger than me is taking control. I get to feel smaller in comparison, vulnerable (as you said) but cared for (a strange feeling when you are bare bottom up having your tail warmed!). It's also fabulous catharsis, so it works out all my guilt. I don't feel the action is paternalistic (although it is by nature) at the time, I sense the authority. I like playing against it, kicking around a bit, scissoring my legs, wriggling...It's all to be held tighter and less compromising. I can wiggle my way out of most things in r/l, I don't want to be allowed to talk or manouevre or manipulate myself out if this. I deserve it but I can't vocalise that. It has to be done for me. Like a child, but not a child. I'm a child in that I am learning, being taught, educated or re-educated. But not a child in it's physical or mental meaning. A bit metaphysical for thos time in the morning (and I porobably ned educating on the proper use of that word). Mind you, I'd quite like to try a bit of age-play! Sugar and spice and all things nice are what I 'could' be made of... | |
| 22 Oct 11, 8:42 AM Melanie38 7 mths |
Freud said theres three modes we adopt learnt through childhood and taken into adulthood each more or less developed in us all.We all go into our parent adult or child side all the time some roles alot more than others,an example would be a boss telling an employee off would be a parent to child transaction.The process is called transactional analysis you can read about it on the net.A sub would talk back to a dom child to parent,so its the change of role that often appeals but yes you would feel often in your child facet as a sub.Hopev this helps. | |
| 22 Oct 11, 9:00 AM fellatrix UK, 2 yrs |
I don't feel at all childlike-except I sometimes get the urge to stamp my feet and say "It's not fair!" | |
| 22 Oct 11, 9:27 AM wildweekend UK(BN), 3 yrs |
Little boy, little girl (sometimes I feel one or the other more comfortably)... I totally understand the feelings described above; the association of being submissive with being young. For me, I guess that it is all about the memories of vulnerability associated with being young; having rules that apply in childhood that don't apply in adulthood (bedtime, being made to eat brussels sprouts) having to ask permission to do things that adults do when they feel like it (please can I go to the loo?), or being told what to do in a way that a child is instructed by parents (being told what to wear). I love the feeling of giving up control over the everyday things that I can normally control in my adult life. In the right hands, it can be the most beautiful experience. Of course, "the right hands" thing here is very important, child-like trust and vulnerability can easily be abused, so I am quite cautious when I sense these feelings surfacing. | |
| 22 Oct 11, 9:43 AM Agent_Cooper UK(CF), 4 yrs |
An interesting way to look at it, which does seem to have some substance for how some be react in that if a Dom acts like a parent the sub will go into child mode! However, this doesn't explain how some subs go into full little girl mode; behaviour, deminor and voice! I know of one sub where she is very assertive in her everyday life but when she does go into the little girl mode her voice changes, a natural change not a false little girl voice; I can see a thesis in this!
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| 22 Oct 11, 9:52 AM clouds UK(CR), 4 yrs |
I can identify with all of this. I am seeing someone at the moment who very much has that effect on me. I find myself feeling, and in some ways acting, like a little girl quite naturally, especially when I'm being told off. My voice changes too. I don't delieberately speak in a babyish voice but I am told my voice sounds younger. It happens a lot when he is speaking softly and gently to me and calls me 'poppet' or when her is scolding me. I love that rather paradoxical juxtaposition of vulnerability and safety it gives me. But these are feelings and emotions not to be played with by anyone. There has to be lots of trust first. annie | |
| 22 Oct 11, 11:50 AM kitty_kat UK(M), 9 yrs   |
I don't feel childlike either, though that would be tough act to pull off, what with being a 43 year old submissive. For me, I feel intensely powerful in a strange way, completely giving over control to someone else. It's like a release on the pressure of the rest of life. I am intensely dominant in all other aspects of my life, single mother, in the legal profession and the 'leader' in many of my social interactions. When I surrender or submit, I feel such a sense of satisfaction, cowed by a bigger predator, not necessarily by the size of the Dominant but the aura of him/her, being physically overpowered and emotionally free. I don't feel any guilt, I relish the freedom being dominated gives me, I feel alive. The downside... I am very fussy with who I submit to. They have to take control, they have to make me feel it, if they ask me what I want, need, prefer... the act loses some significance.
Perhaps what I need is an impossible fantasy but if you know anyone that is arrogant, confident, sexy, a mind reader and hung... an Uber Dom... then let me know
Excellence is an art won by training and habituation. We do not act rightly because we have virtue or excellence, but rather we have those because we have acted rightly. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit. - Aristotle | |
| 22 Oct 11, 12:12 PM ClassAct2005 UK(N), 7 yrs |
I never want to dress or be like a little girl and never have but I like to feel protected and there would always be a slightly paternalistic relationship with a dominant man; so he has to feel stronger both mentally and physically than I am and dependable and capable. |
