Weight y issue (96)

I am basically just a round ball, i never used to be. And just over two years ago managed to drop nearly 4 dress sizes, through excersice and healthy eating. Then had a baby.

10 years ago, i was modelling and didn't know if it was ever possible to have a belly. Now, i waddle to go places, eat food like i'm never going to eat again.

I realised today, that i am suffering an addiction. I can't stop with food, today i was given a menu and i must of stared at it for about two hours - yet i had just eaten.

I made a promise to my Dom to eat healthly and excercie but i simply can't do it. Has anyone gone through this - or going through this? I know i can do this, i have done this before. I have done weight watchers, slim fast, diet tablets(too dangerous - so stopped), calorie count, i need someone to watch my every move i think, to drag me to every gym session and hurt me if i fail. My weight has to be my weakness, this weight has dragged my personality, right now i'm Eaoyore from Winnie the Pooh.

Edited Thu 20 Oct 11, 7:42 PM by lonely_78

Good luck xx

Also i've found i do worse when someone else takes control of my weight i 'act out' so to speak my weight has to be myconcern then if i'm on my own it's still me wanting to do it rather then doing it because i've been told to.

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I got hypnotised by a reputable and well trained practitioner. I haven't looked back since and I've lost about 35kg so far

Is it costly? A friend of mine noticed i tend to over eat when i talk about my past. Surely though, i should be able to see that i am doing that?

I do agree with you about rebelling, but i am so eager to please, i dont want Him to get fed up of me. i think He understands that this isnt easy for me.

i suspect the problem is not obsession but depression,,

it's important to understand that many obsession's are the result of depression from one source or another,,

as you say 10 years ago modeling then getting trim again ,, then having a baby with all the hormonal change's as well as the long days and night's caring for some-one totally dependant on you,

you were in a business that is very cut throat where you had to think of yourself how you looked stood walked etc etc,,

then as you left that you relaxed put on weight,, you did'nt need to keep account of everything you ate drank etc etc

you lose it then have a child then your attention's not on you

these are factor's that could have a bearing and worth concidering

Please excuse crap spelling cause i,m rubbish

Edited 20 Oct 11, 8:06 PM by MisstressvsSolicedog

The first answers are something like I'm an addict or I'm weak.

Then you go to the 2nd question why am I .........

and so on until you work it out. It might not be as obvious as you think the ultimate answer. It may be something that you have been hiding from for so long you have forgotten what it is or it may be blantly obvious its having the desire, courage and determination to find out stuff about your self

In train spotting its said you give up heroin many times... then you do.

Or like Ford said if you believe you can or you can't you are right!

And i could go and analyse every detail but doesn't everyone have problems? How comes i am so weak? I know no one can answer that. I thought i was stronger than this.

I will check the prices on hypnotherapy. I have friends who listen and care and i am fairly analytical in processing everything. How do people get through this? If finances are not permissable, do you ignore it? do you except it?

there are root's to which you can break habit's it does not break the cause but,, say when thinking about eating something,, force the thought of say,,

being a grease monkey in a steamsteam the smell of the coke and oil's the noise of the turbine's the scrap and the shoval as to load the boiler the wieght of the shovel as the coke's thrown into the fire,,

just an example of forcing other thought's in to break a cycle of habit thinking that your in at the min

Please excuse crap spelling cause i,m rubbish

I do not have your full case history so I can only give general advice here.

I will talk about fat thinking and thin thinking. I'm not saying fat is bad it's just a way of describing peoples relationship with food.

Some of what I say may seem unkind. I am sorry if it does

Fat people and thin people look at food differently.

Thin people only see food as a fuel. They only eat when they need to.

Fat people use food for other reasons "You have to clear your plate. There are people starving in Africa" "Have a slice of cake it will make you feel better" "I know when to stop eating when in pain in my stomach is greater then the pain in my heart" "The chocolate called out to me" "Food makes me feel better" "I can't get slime so I just keep eating"

So you have to look at: Why you eat? Why you want to get slime? (It has to be for you and you have to be happy with how people will be with the slime you ("My partner should love me for who I am on the inside not what I look like" This stops so many people getting slime) Why do you want to hurt yourself? (Sorry this is a big statement, but it has to be said. You know you don't want to be as you are but you keep eating)

This is where therapy comes in. Answer these questions and fix the root cause and start thinking like a thin person and the weight starts to solve it's self.

90% of people who diet put the weight back on. As soon as you say I can't eat X that is all you think of (Don't think of pink elephants. Thinking of pink elephant are you not) So you eat X. If you do loss the weight you then stop the diet and go back to the old habits. Change your habits and your relationship with food is the key to losing the weight for good

edited after reading

Edited 20 Oct 11, 8:52 PM by DanceToOwnTune

I am on leave tomorrow, so can focus on trying to stay out of the kitchen. My Dom suggested i plan a weeks worth of food, buy all the ingredients and stick to it.

Do you think it's possible to fear losing weight? just a thought?

Totes feel your weight-y pain