being choosey. (95)

Very? Why?

Not very? Why?

You gotta be choosey to find the right one aint you? But what do you not mind crossing off your tick list. Looks? Interests?

Personally I just look to see I fancy them first, then do we get on, then are they domme? Seems theres no template to find the one and in the end it just happens anyway.

Eta-its more of a discussion than a question really

If love is blind I need to find a cane

Edited Tue 18 Oct 11, 1:18 PM by prettyPETunia

I spend a lot of time alone.

[.. or maybe it will be because of that little 'problem' I have.]

Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more.

Let's face it, trying to find a lasting relationship is tricky anyway, when you add the kink mix into the wish list it is extremely difficult.

I have always assumed that the search for purely a play partner is much easier? I am intrigued as to if this is the case or not.

For me at least the vanilla bit has to feel more or less right, the kinky elements have more scope for compromise and discussion.

HH

Bit of slap and tickle, a bit choosey

Short Term, a bit more choosey

Long Term Very choosey

Why? Cos there is a lot of nutters out there

“Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”

Yup – that's about the height of it.

Much easier, yes. But ultimately empty and unsatisfying. For me, anyway.

I find, if the vanilla elements are in place, the rest is always doable – maybe I'm just too easy to please

If the vanilla aspects are wrong, it's play.

Then, I met the man I would marry: practically an exact opposite of what I 'knew' I wanted, in a fetish club circa 1993. Happy days!

"Style is the sum of all your defects." - Alan Bennett

MizzScarlett outlines the problem of having a preconceived list above. If you are check to see if they tick all the boxes chances are you'll miss the lovely things they actually have to offer

Edited 18 Oct 11, 1:52 PM by Mr_Punch

Im quite sure i wouldn't date a unhygienic, selfish, thieving murderer even if they did make a good roast dinner

“Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”

At the start, who needs a list. Any one thing is enough for a play. Should things work out, start exploring together.

I get a steady stream of 'curious' girlies from vanilla sites. If they want to try bondage, who am I to deny them the chance? To be honest, very few have made the transition to fully fledged kinksters. I remain friends with all of them, even though some are just on my 'xmas card list'. Nothing wrong with that. You can never have enough friends.

The search for a more permanant sub goes on!

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