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| Sun 16 Oct 11, 10:10 PM kirsty_m 18 mths  |
Following on from the 'Dom Training' thread, and also all the discussions around how to introduce kink into a nilla relationship, a friend and i thought that maybe a simple checklist could be useful for any nilla guy who could be a potential Dom. We thought the list could be handed to nilla guys... if they turn pale and immediately remember they were sposed to be washing their hair, then at least you know. If they read it with interest, it could give them some pointers. Some i have come up with... When you grab hair, get a good grip - you're being Dominant, not teasing girls in the playground. Don't ask 'if thats ok with you?' after telling us to do something. Don't shout, we're not deaf - a low commanding tone is more effective than screaming. Unless we're screaming red red red, it's a GOOD thing if we scream and cry when you hit us. Any other suggestions? kirsty xx
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| 16 Oct 11, 10:31 PM twilightsilence UK(ME), 16 mths  |
Don't ask us what you should wear......you should be telling us what we are wearing!! Approach with caution.....I may not have had my coffee! | ||
| 16 Oct 11, 10:38 PM StellaMaris UK, 13 mths      |
Wish I had known about IC when my husband was alive. He was more vanilla than Mr Whippy. Your guidance notes would have been invaluable help to frustrated me. I remember asking him once to really hit me hard. "But I might hurt you. You know I could never hurt you. I love you". I rolled my eyes, sighed and said, "That's the whole bloody point. I want you to hurt me!" He never could though bless him. Ah well. "There are two ways to reach me: by way of kisses or by way of the imagination. But there is a hierarchy: the kisses alone don't work" - Anais Nin | ||
| 16 Oct 11, 10:44 PM kirsty_m 18 mths |
Oooh Twilight you just reminded me of one.... Do NOT wear boxers with multi-coloured cartoon faces all over them... it's hard to keep a respectfully submissive face on when giggling over underwear. kirsty x | ||
| 16 Oct 11, 10:45 PM MisstressvsSolicedog UK(NN), 17 mths |
Well it's very very important that the Domme or Dom should follow our instruction's very very carefully and do strictly as their told when their told,,, this generaly is followed by much fear and slave enlightenment in our household Please excuse crap spelling cause i,m rubbish | ||
| 16 Oct 11, 10:46 PM twilightsilence UK(ME), 16 mths |
PMSL!! Approach with caution.....I may not have had my coffee! | ||
| 16 Oct 11, 11:03 PM twilightsilence UK(ME), 16 mths |
Two more  Unless it's a hard limit for us (you will be told what they are), don't ask our permission before you do something. We actually DO want to be told what to do. Approach with caution.....I may not have had my coffee! | ||
| 16 Oct 11, 11:26 PM The_Dark_Prince UK(WR), 4 yrs |
If I want to wear them I will!!! Be the change you want to see in the world. - Gandhi. | ||
| 16 Oct 11, 11:27 PM NoCoverGirl UK(LS), 15 mths |
They'd need to learn to be in control, and learn to enjoy it! So - sure, they have a right to pretty much everything (within agreed limits) but they should always be in control, and not out of control. Rights and responsibilities - they'd have to want to take them both. | ||
| 16 Oct 11, 11:31 PM MisstressvsSolicedog UK(NN), 17 mths |
it was your ludicrous taste in underwear was what attracted me to you in the first place,, sigh ! so many men simply don't have courage not only to wear the equivelant of what is 'the birdy dance' on the outside of their suit but to beleive there's nothing wrong in doing so either,, You Hero you !!
Please excuse crap spelling cause i,m rubbish | ||
| 16 Oct 11, 11:34 PM NoCoverGirl UK(LS), 15 mths |
^^^Thirded! Reminded me of a time with a vanilla guy when I practically fell out of some very ineffectually tied ties... for a bit I actually considered pretending to be tied up just to keep him happy, but ended up giving him a couple of helpful pointers instead... not the sexiest moment :/ |
