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| prettyPETunia |
Its my ex's birthday today. She got a lot on her plate, an aweful lot. So instead of selling up, We still share the same house, seperate rooms. I dont hate her but the stress of selling and permanently splitting she dont need right now.
So do I give her a birthday card? What do I write in it?
Its a double edged sword. She will be hurt if I do, hurt if I dont.
What would you do?
| 14 Oct 11, 7:21 AM Outre2  UK(SP), 18 mths  |
Give her a card. Lesser of two evils. | |
| 14 Oct 11, 7:21 AM summberblues UK(LS), 7 yrs |
Tell her you have booked a table for two, and that your sorry for any noise caused on your late return. | |
| 14 Oct 11, 7:22 AM misstressclare UK(TA), 4 yrs £ |
yes, from a friedn maybe or just name and a x But a nice thought never goes a miss x | |
| 14 Oct 11, 7:30 AM prettyPETunia UK(WS), 4 yrs |
Iv got a card. Just says happy birthday with some crass verse inside. No idea what to write in it. But it is the lesser of 2 evils, thank you @master discipline. Thank you all If love is blind I need to find a cane Edited 14 Oct 11, 7:31 AM by prettyPETunia | |
| 14 Oct 11, 7:30 AM Shineecouple UK, 9 yrs |
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| 14 Oct 11, 7:46 AM prettyPETunia UK(WS), 4 yrs |
If love is blind I need to find a cane | |
| 14 Oct 11, 7:48 AM QuietD UK(WV), 7 yrs |
Give her a card, you don't need to put anything in it just sign it. Life may knock us down, but its how we get up and move forward that's important. | |
| 14 Oct 11, 8:26 AM celeste13 UK(SN), 6 yrs |
I was in exactly the same situation as you until recently, except we were desperate to sell up, but the market conditions were not allowing it. All done and dusted now though  I plumped for getting her a birthday card the first time her birthday came around after our split. It was just a nice generic card, I specifically got one with only "Happy Birthday" written inside - no smushy verses! I signed it and put "happy birthday, from c" No kisses, as I am not a hypocrite. She said thanks, but it was all an empty gesture. To give a perspective from the receiver's point of view, I got a card from her on my birthday, but it meant nothing to me so thinking about it, she needn't have bothered and I wouldn't have minded one bit. The 2nd time her birthday came around (yes, it took a LONG time for our house to complete!) I was away and I didn't send her a card at all and she wasn't bothered. I know you say you are damned if you do and damned if you don't, but if you prefer to err on the side of caution, I would get her a card. c xx Like the moon, come out from behind the clouds! Shine. | |
| 14 Oct 11, 9:30 AM FluffySub UK(NN), 6 yrs      |
Giver her the card, just make sure there is nothing in the verse or what you write, that might mislead her in any way. There's nothing worse than mixed messages from an ex. Not huffy or stuffy, nor tiny or tall,
But fluffy, just fluffy, with no brains at all. | |
| 14 Oct 11, 9:31 AM prettyPETunia UK(WS), 4 yrs |
Thanx everyone, I got the card here at work. Its staring and laughing at me. Il give it her tonight when I get home. Wish id left it there this morning now so I wouldnt see her reaction. Now I got her family coming round as well. Awkward moments ahead. Pub sounds a good idea! If love is blind I need to find a cane |
