Interesting differences between profiles and messages (2)

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Posted by sadistical on Tue 15 Feb 05, 9:12 PM to sadistical's blog.

It's always exciting getting a new message from somebody for the first time...

But a message from a 30+ year old individual who gets in touch because they live locally and feel like playing despite the fact that their profile says "over 50 only" is .. confusing.

So far nobody who I've asked about this has bothered to reply, but I wonder why people list these limits if they're just going to ignore them? (I only see the subs doing this, mostly because doms ignore me)

Sure, you might hate a particular act, but negotiate successfully with another person that you'll anything but [i]that[/i], that kind of limit or selection filter is understandable.

But things like age/weight limits seem very fixed, I'd imagine if I only wanted people of a particular age range I'd have a reason for that - and I'd not care that they shared my fetishes or anything, if they were the wrong age I'd just move on.

Maybe I'm missing something obvious ..

Oh well, there are some lovely people here regardless .. I'll just put the messages down to my undoubtably intruiging and compelling profile

Now I just need to practise my biting sarcasm!

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15 Feb 05, 10:46 PM
SnowdropExplodes
UK(TN), 7 yrs

sadistical wrote:
But things like age/weight limits seem very fixed, I'd imagine if I only wanted people of a particular age range I'd have a reason for that - and I'd not care that they shared my fetishes or anything, if they were the wrong age I'd just move on.

Maybe I'm missing something obvious ..

I would have said that age, weight, hair colour or whatever, are limits that a person is perfectly entitled to pick and choose to whom they apply. After all, these are preferences, not absolute limits, and presumably are more for the information of people who might intend to make the first contact (i.e. such a limit says "don't make the first move if you don't match, but if I like your profile I might make the first move instead"). If such a person looks and says, "well, (s)he's too young (or old) really, but my, (s)he seems so well suited to my tastes...!" then why on Earth should they not go for it?

SnowdropExplodes

16 Feb 05, 5:56 PM
sadistical
UK, 7 yrs

SnowdropExplodes wrote:
I would have said that age, weight, hair colour or whatever, are limits that a person is perfectly entitled to pick and choose to whom they apply. After all, these are preferences, not absolute limits, and presumably are more for the information of people who might intend to make the first contact (i.e. such a limit says "don't make the first move if you don't match, but if I like your profile I might make the first move instead"). If such a person looks and says, "well, (s)he's too young (or old) really, but my, (s)he seems so well suited to my tastes...!" then why on Earth should they not go for it?

A wonderfully succinct explaination which makes complete sense to me now.

I guess the confusion comes from my interpretations that other people writing these things were making them as hard limits ..