Advice / guides for self-bondage? (17)

As I am far more into bondage than my partner, I was hoping to find a way to satisfy my own craving for it without doing something that was not safe.

Thank-you

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Feeling uncomfortable on IC since January 20th 2011.

it is probably the best self-bondage site, with loads of "scenarios" to try, graded in difficulty, stories, safety information and a forum for discussions on most aspects of self-bondage and a lot of other stuff related to solo and partnered kink.

FWIW I'm a Moderator on that site ( as Lj ) and am happy to answer any questions via memo here or on boundanna

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Of course, which means if I ever get really good at it, I could easily be found a week later..

But making everything escapable sort of defeats the object..

Oooh, I'm just looking through a few of the scenarios, and I've already found half a dozen that I really want to try.

Do you have any reccomendations for places to buy reliable / good equiptment for self-bondage?

Thank-you very much for the link & advise

Beauty is only skin deep, ugly goes straight to the bone.
Feeling uncomfortable on IC since January 20th 2011.

Beauty is only skin deep, ugly goes straight to the bone.
Feeling uncomfortable on IC since January 20th 2011.

not really. What people get out of self-bondage depends, like anything else kink-wise, on that person alone.

For some, it is a self-imposed meditative state, for others a direct sexual turn-on, and so on. The aim is usually to make the bondage inescapable for a defined period, or require a significant effort, or undergo some form of trial, to obtain release. Some, however, are quite happy to use a restraint that is indeed immediately escapable, they just enjoy the feeling of restraint without the need for "permanence" Truly inescapable self-bondage usually ends up in the newspapers as a "sex game that went wrong" and a funeral!

The release mechanism is the vital component, and there should always be more than one, or with the help of the inevitable arrival of another person, by arrangement or, less acceptably (non-consensual), by the accidental discovery by an uninvolved person (room-service, tradesman, delivery etc)

I would strongly recommend the use of ice as a release mechanism, as even in our variable climate, it always melts indoors. There are various ways of doing this, check out the forum. I'd avoid anything electronic as a release, unless you know exactly what you are doing, things can go wrong. Personally I would never trust a computer to provide any part of a release mechanism.

As for materials, B&Q or similar can supply everything you need, though a pair of lockable cuffs (NOT handcuffs, they are far too dangerous for SB) would be a worthwhile start.

I used to use a nylon bag, the ones that come with washing machine tablets, to hold an ice cube. If the cord of the bag is slipped through a chain link, this provides a surprisingly secure "link" in a restraint system, which will take about half an hour to melt and release (less if you can warm it with your hands) or it can be used to suspend keys out of reach. A bigger ice-block will take longer.

be a switch, double your fun

This was what I prefered to do before I was in a vanilla relationship Unfortunatly, it seems a little too close to (if not actually) like cheating, as I get significant sexual gratification from bondage, as well as relaxation, and I would never cheat on my partner. Although I love and crave bondage, I love him more, so I've got to try and find a safe way to play without playing with others -sighs-

Thank-you very much for the offer, though :D

Beauty is only skin deep, ugly goes straight to the bone.
Feeling uncomfortable on IC since January 20th 2011.