Posted by NilSatisNisiOptimum
on Thu 6 Oct 11, 7:59 PM to NilSatisNisiOptimum's blog.
How do you help someone who lives miles away,that you only know fron online chatting and they say they are determined to end things for once and all.How do you help any ideas?
Regards Andy
| 6 Oct 11, 8:00 PM FluffySub UK(NN), 6 yrs       |
Find someone on their network and share your concerns? Not huffy or stuffy, nor tiny or tall,
But fluffy, just fluffy, with no brains at all. | ||
| 6 Oct 11, 8:03 PM NilSatisNisiOptimum UK, 6 yrs |
Sadly this person is no longer on ic Revenge is a wasted emotion | ||
| 6 Oct 11, 8:06 PM frederick_hende 20 mths |
There are many forums around for support for many different conditions. If suicidal feelings are the main concern (as opposed to their being a rape victim etc) suicideforum dot com is a good one. | ||
| 6 Oct 11, 8:07 PM NilSatisNisiOptimum UK, 6 yrs |
Thanks for the suggestion Revenge is a wasted emotion | ||
| 6 Oct 11, 8:09 PM FluffySub UK(NN), 6 yrs |
But they were? Do you not know of anyone else they know? If you know where they live it might be worth doing a local search on the personals and see if any of the IC regulars live near them. If the threat is imminent, call the Police.
Not huffy or stuffy, nor tiny or tall,
But fluffy, just fluffy, with no brains at all. | ||
| 6 Oct 11, 8:11 PM NilSatisNisiOptimum UK, 6 yrs |
There is no imminent threat its all part of a longer term plan in putting the house in order before doing things Revenge is a wasted emotion | ||
| 6 Oct 11, 8:18 PM mini_velvet UK(EH), 6 yrs |
Not in all cases but my experience is that those who talk about suicide don't do it, those that stay silent do. | ||
| 6 Oct 11, 8:21 PM NilSatisNisiOptimum UK, 6 yrs |
That is generally my opinion,but when its someone you know it takes on a different aspect Revenge is a wasted emotion | ||
| 6 Oct 11, 8:25 PM mini_velvet UK(EH), 6 yrs |
Agreed, hope you find a way to support them. | ||
| 6 Oct 11, 8:42 PM Gettin_better UK, 21 mths |
My first thought was 'love them'. Dont try stop them, or tell them they are making the 'wrong choice'... just love them... like you've never loved anyone before. Show them life can be full and happy. Everyone dies. Some choose to do it violently, not taking into account the people left behind or those going to find the body when they commit suicide. Some opt to go to Switzerland and have a hand in it. Your friend has decided to control their life... and as such, their death.... and while it may be a tragic, painful loss to you and others, ask why you would want to stop your friend doing something they have clearly thought long and hard about. Be grateful that they consider you trustworthy enough to discuss it with and as other posters have mentioned those who talk about it, often don't do it.... but of course there are exceptions. I considered suicide last Christmas, i planned... i am still here... i am happy... i dont want to die... life is good... nobody saved me. I saved myself. Good luck x Edit - when i say love - be unconditional. It is online which is hard, but its still doable. Get up. Get over it. Get on with it. Edited 6 Oct 11, 8:43 PM by Gettin_better |
