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| 28 Sep 11, 7:46 PM misunderstoodslave UK(OL), 2 yrs |
Tee hee. I like to open doors, carry bags, get coffees. All of those. If we go anywhere, I am in charge of arrangements, tickets, directions, and stress if they go wrong (as opposed to another sub I have discussed this with, who isn't allowed to have tickets, control, anything when they travel - the very opposite form of control.) If I can kiss his hand, surreptiously, at work, I totally will. | |
| 10 Oct 11, 7:01 PM servusminor UK(G), 21 mths  |
When we walk, holding hands, Mistress hand leads mine. I am also known as 'tea bitch', do as much carrying of bags, follow Mistress through doors, and the occasional lowered voice, or look, from Mistress remind me of my place. I doubt anyone else (scene or otherwise) would even notice. | |
| 10 Oct 11, 7:28 PM BatteredBruisedWifey UK(SW), 9 mths |
I was brought up to have nice manners, be polite, treat women well. I am very lucky what is natural to me my Lady adores. YET She is the only person i can be this way. Everyone else i felt i kind had to be jokey, matey, performing seal or even explain myself.
I suppose it is easy for me because it is a tender realtionship and She is sensitive soft. If She was hard i would find it difficult. I just want Her to always be content, pleased. I cant help saying to Her the L word as She is just naturally so accepting, supportive, understanding of me. In our hearts we know She is my owner i Her slave. I do make mistakes & i am corrected, reprimanded. She is so gentle if you spoke to Her you would never guess She loves tanning my hide
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| 10 Oct 11, 9:59 PM dusted UK(B), 18 mths  |
In the cinema last week the coke tasted weird so he made me complain. I came back with different coke and he made me take it back to ask for a refund just as I was waiting for the trailers to start. I was huffing but silently knew I had better do it Otherwise it's small things I suppose. Always carrying bags, getting him anything he needs etc. Sometimes he'll ask me to choose something as simple as a pizza and I just can't! It's innate, I always want to make it easier for him.I don't get on my knees to pray. | |
| 10 Oct 11, 11:23 PM Goldilocks UK(SE), 5 yrs |
I can be submissive. I strive to submit and please. It's my focus most of the time I am with Him; my Dominant and sadistic partner. Therefore there are lots of ways to inject a little D/s into the rest of our life outside of the bedroom. Making his coffee is just one way; whether this is in his home, in my flat, at his work or at my family home. Getting the drinks, fetching things, certain words and innocuous phrases, carrying things, kissing him/his hand, wearing the clothes he wants, doing things to make his life easier; all these can be little symbols of that wondrous power exchange. One thing is walking by his side or slightly behind him. I walk fast and I often walk ahead like a little puppy and often he will whistle and/or say "heel" to remind me that my place is beside/behind him, not ahead. That, for me, is just one little faction of D/s that can be expressed in vanilla public but holds so much more meaning for us. I love the rules, set behaviours and more that blend the vanilla and kink aspects of my life when out of the bedroom in the normal, 'vanilla' world. Goldie Edited 10 Oct 11, 11:24 PM by Goldilocks | |
| 10 Oct 11, 11:29 PM DeCoverley UK(GL), 4 yrs |
Thanks for the replies so far Look forward to more... | |
| 10 Oct 11, 11:35 PM Captain_Black 2 yrs  |
I think I see what you're getting at, but really, why would they need to? To need to do so is deeply insecure. And not very D.
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| 10 Oct 11, 11:53 PM Abraxus UK(WC), 12 yrs |
There are quite a few things I wouldn't really expect a submissive girlfriend to do and so I would have to say that I probably do some of the opposite things, in that I always open doors for a woman, any woman for that matter, and open the passenger car door too. I also carry any heavy bags and tend to go to the bar. I suppose I have a traditional viewpont in that I see certain things as being a man's role. Opening doors, carrying heavy stuff and paying for things are man's shit to me, every bit as much as the tv remote, the bbq and sex how and when I want it. I guess I just see it as an extension of being a protector and provider as much as it's about being in charge and in control. |
