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| Tue 27 Sep 11, 10:09 PM DeCoverley UK(GL), 4 yrs |
I'm sure we all know what we like to do in the context of play etc, but I was wondering how people like to express their dominance and submission the other 90% of the time – when at home, out with friends, shopping, walking in the country etc? A simple example – do Doms always expect their subs to get the coffee etc, or do you sometimes do it? Really simple little things like that… | |
| 27 Sep 11, 10:31 PM lahmai UK(SE), 2 yrs  |
I always used to open the car door for my Top. And I went through doors second. I remember once when we were at Wickes buying chain for bondage and the doors were automatic sliding ones. As they whispered open I remember thinking, 'of course the doors should open for Her'. It was like everything was right with the world. I'll do anything for a lollipop... | |
| 27 Sep 11, 10:59 PM Graci_e UK, 5 yrs  |
i try to make coffee as much as possible but i work from home and some days are crazy busy. Also Sire is a big boy He survived before i came along so He's more then able to make His own coffee if i am too busy. i pack the clothes if Wwe are heading out for the weekend. If getting take aways etc then i always serve Him first and do the washing up etc aftesr. There was one wonderful morning that i woke up to a bath and all the washing done - that was a nice treat | |
| 28 Sep 11, 8:19 AM Ms_Valentine UK, 9 yrs |
It is hard to say sometimes which of the things @paulss does for me are purely D/s things and which are things he would do in a relationship regardless of its D/s dynamic. When he is with me, at weekends and at home in the evenings, he always makes the hot drinks. Obviously when I am alone during the day, I am capable of looking after myself and do so but once we are together, he looks after me and a lot of mundane stuff. Even though he works outside our home, if supper has not been started when he gets home, he will just cook it for us. He opens doors for me and fetches and carries for me, although currently,after my dreadful backache of a couple of weeks ago, that is a practical rather than D/s issue. He is always there and will always do whatever I ask, be it a tiny chore or a hard time-consuming task. I suppose in our everyday life, it is the knowing he is there as my faithful, devoted sub which I notice. I know he will do whatever I ask, so whether I do or not is irrelevant. I wouldn't ever want to be without him as he is the kindest and most selfless man I have ever met and it is in those small, numerous instances through each and every day I am made so happy. A Fine Norfolk Domme. Mistress of @paulss My PD blog at http://mistress-keene.blogspot.com/ | |
| 28 Sep 11, 9:04 AM The_Edge UK(SK), 6 yrs |
A lot of the time we actually reverse the Tb effect with me making my lovely lady wait for me to open the door or pull the seat out for her. It's very subtle and 99% of the world completely misses it, even some scene players. Apart from not being a 24/7 the rest of the time is just a loving relationship but she knows if I ask for something I expect but if I say would you like a coffee I am offering. Other little plays we have together is a bottom slap just a little harder than playful, kissing whenever and wherever I want (she has to ask to kiss me). It's meant to be fun and we may abandon roles completely for days at a time. I have the most fun at work though, no one tries to stare me out or out-alpha me even the directors seem to understand 'don't mess'. Of course they could fire me but being such a strong leader whose staff are productive and compliant why would they? I make no attempt to cover my predilections, surprisingly the prettiest girls in the office will do anything I ask of them (work-related) with a little nervous giggle. Life's great. | |
| 28 Sep 11, 9:22 AM Belasarius UK(M), 8 yrs      |
One of my delights is minding her language. She is permited neither "I" nor "me" and that makes her special all the time. But, mostly it's just maintaining respect and focus one on the other. Things that make us feel good but which others won't necessarily see. My goal - to save women from nature (Dior) | |
| 28 Sep 11, 9:52 AM pleasureswitch UK(E), 6 yrs |
Havin to speak in sentences of a set, lets say 5 for instance, number of words is an interesting game to play out an about. Of course it's harder with fewer words. "Yeah I like Kinky stuff,dirty dark pervy stuff,weird sex....
An' Yerself ?" Edited 28 Sep 11, 9:54 AM by pleasureswitch | |
| 28 Sep 11, 2:58 PM Aristaeus UK(RG), 2 yrs |
I guess that you don't have to act out a D/s relationship 24/7. If it's in the mind, the relationship is a success. Something I hope to achieve,or encounter. A, | |
| 28 Sep 11, 4:21 PM DeCoverley UK(GL), 4 yrs |
Yes. (Did you see what I did there?) | |
| 28 Sep 11, 4:27 PM prettyPETunia UK(WS), 4 yrs |
This a really nice thread to read. I identify with all of it. Being "there" is what matters, the pleasure of mutual appreciation from both sides is important and a bloody nice feeling If love is blind I need to find a cane | |
| 28 Sep 11, 6:42 PM A_Zebra_Called_Dave UK, 9 mths £ |
Via the medium of dance.
Spots are so last year. |
i tend to try and make His life easier by doing simple things like setting up the sat nav - though sometimes that makes it harder for Him :D
Other then that it's all just following me rules