Poly relationships (24)

I personally think so as men generally do not want that snuggling feeling after and dont want need to feel secure.

a married dom contacted me today and asked me if I would like to sub to him. My response was:

"I have done a lot of thinking recently and I wonder whether married Doms understand how powerful D/s in its pure form is and how much people who are submissive in their heart get attached to their Dom or master. A relationship like this can only end in tears for one person and that is the submissive.

So I must decline"

I am sure it applies whatever the gender/role is...

Behind every great woman is an ass - OR should that be - behind every woman is a great ass?
"Once in his life, every man is entitled to fall in love with a gorgeous redhead" - Lucille Ball

Would you say that would also apply if the person in question was in a open relationship? I do understand that emotional bond is unavoidable in a long term relationship.

As for gender and/or sub/Dom..for me the people come first....the rest follows.....

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I can only concur....

You never know how strong you are, until being strong is the only choice you have.
It might look like I am always here, but I'm a figment of your imagination really.....

I suppose the difficulty is in (how others have already said) keeping things going in a way that makes all parties happy at least more than most of the time. I suppose a lot of this also comes down to honesty and thoughtful discussion as well.

When I was single, getting memos from "the wife doesn't know and I'm very descreet" types used to insult me on so many levels so yeah, honesty definately required and then some!

It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice xx

All I can put it down to is an insatiable libido, and something of a "badge of honour" that they can acquire so many "possessions".

As for whether it's easier for women than men, I don't know really....as I have no experience of how women find it. But certainly gay men, if you're the right height, weight, attitude and into the right things, are snapped up faster than you can say "slave registration number", and of course....if they're attached to unkinky partners and playing away, they come down on the easy side, statistically.

I read what one replier wrote about declining an offer from a Married Dom, because of the connection that develops between a sub and his/her Dom. I have felt this connection also, and it is VERY painful when you then find out (if you didn't know already) that the relationship cannot progress to where your heart would like it to go. As was said by that poster, it ends one way only, tears for the sub.

Personally, I would love to find a Dom to devote myself to, who will devote himself to ME, but I very much doubt that is likely to happen, mainly because I am NOT the right height, weight etc, etc....so most of the time, I'm forced to switch....or be completely celebate.....but I digress.

If there's one group that I imagine it's VERY hard for, it's married submissive STRAIGHT men. Imagine having to go outside your marriage, and your traditional role as the strong one in the family, and get on your knees for a total stranger (a Domme) and meet all her expectations, while not letting on to your vanilla Wife that this is going on. That must be a horrible situation to be in.

I was pretty laid back about the situation. I had never previously met him or spoken to him before and had absolutely no contact with him afterwards. In fact if we were to pass in the street I honestly don't think I would recognise him. I knew "He" met up with him on a regular basis but I never had a problem with it.

Perhaps because I was able to distance myself from him and we had no emotional bond made it easier for me.

"There are two ways to reach me: by way of kisses or by way of the imagination. But there is a hierarchy: the kisses alone don't work" - Anais Nin

A married / attached female sub will still find a Dom willing to take her on, partly because there are more men in the scene than women - and partly because some men are happy to accept a physical relationship rather than an emotional one.

A married / attached female Domme will still find a male sub willing to take her on, because Dommes are able to dictate the terms of the relationship - and because some male subs are willing to accept whatever attention they are given.

A married / attached male Dom will find it harder to get a female sub to take him on - because there are plenty of unattached male Doms around; why should a sub settle for a married one ?

A married / attached male sub ? .... has virtually no chance at all.

Of course I'm generalising. But maybe not by much...

" Under this playful, boyish exterior beats the heart of a ruthless, sadistic maniac "

We have been in situations where singles are almost predatory when looking at secure and committed couples.

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