19 Sep 11, 12:18 PM
Richtea
UK(BN), 2 yrs
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gentlemusings wrote:
Navare wrote:
Number 2 for my as there might still be a good friendship to come out of it when all is said and done.
N.x
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My thoughts to Nav.....
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I get why you'd say that, but I don't think that taking option three neccesarily means you can't still be friends.
Having said that, I would probably take option two, unless they explicitly say that they fancy you, then I'd gently use option three.
"Me and Kevin, we're just not the same"
Women are from Reigate, men are from Reigate. Not all of them of course, that would be silly, some are from Pimlico, or Cleethorpes, or that little village in Derbyshire who's name eludes me, or Bridlington, or Weston Super Mare, or Clac....
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19 Sep 11, 12:20 PM
Call_Me_Harmony
UK(CB), 5 yrs
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gentlemusings wrote:
sslapp wrote:
(3)
Get it over with and stop stringing them along!
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Agree to a point, but i'm quite empathic, i don't like the thought of hurting someone unncessarily...
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The only problem with the number 2 to avoid hurting them is from the other side of the screen it's stringing them along, allowing them to believe your interested when your not and in the end could hurt them more that being straight up.
It's number 3 for me every time. After all number 3 still leaves the gate open for friendship.
If you don't like what you see, what you read, then just move along. Life is too short to waste it arguing about the little things.
http://www.journey.wingsofspirit.co.uk/index.html - Journey
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19 Sep 11, 12:23 PM
gentlemusings
UK(M), 19 mths
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Richtea wrote:
gentlemusings wrote:
Navare wrote:
Number 2 for my as there might still be a good friendship to come out of it when all is said and done.
N.x
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My thoughts to Nav.....
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I get why you'd say that, but I don't think that taking option three neccesarily means you can't still be friends.
Having said that, I would probably take option two, unless they explicitly say that they fancy you, then I'd gently use option three.
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Rejection is always a bitter pill no matter how you do it... I just think any option is better than number one and @originalrebels lol Submission is giving your heart freely knowing what joy and pain will come of it...
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19 Sep 11, 12:23 PM
BoredDom2005
UK, 7 yrs
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gentlemusings wrote:
So now, you've seen the photo..........
Ok... we shall call this theoretical question...
You have been talking to a nice chap or lady on IC for a couple of days and you get round to exchanging photo's...
Even though you get on well via chat or memo you know from first glance you are NOT and NEVER will be attracted to them...
Do you;
1) Take the cowards way out and delete and block them without second thought...
2) Carry on talking to them occassionally and hope they wont bring up meeting again...
3) Decide it's best to tell them straight that you are not attracted to them...
Just for the record i will go for (2) every time, If they do push for a meet, i take a deep breath and try and be tactful....
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4) Casually ask if they've ever been vaccinated against Hepatitis B...
If it leaks, plug it...
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19 Sep 11, 12:25 PM
Ember2b1
UK(WV), 12 mths
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Somewhere between 2 and 3, I would continue to chat dropping subtle hints occasionally as to my decision. |
19 Sep 11, 12:26 PM
bohnanza
UK(FK), 12 yrs
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4) It's only a photo. It probably isn't accurate. Very few people photograph accurately. I have met many people from here and wondered if they put their profile photo up for a bet. Rohypnol means never having to say "Would you like another coffee?".
Religion: It makes good people do bad things.
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19 Sep 11, 12:27 PM
gentlemusings
UK(M), 19 mths
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BoredDom2005 wrote:
gentlemusings wrote:
So now, you've seen the photo..........
Ok... we shall call this theoretical question...
You have been talking to a nice chap or lady on IC for a couple of days and you get round to exchanging photo's...
Even though you get on well via chat or memo you know from first glance you are NOT and NEVER will be attracted to them...
Do you;
1) Take the cowards way out and delete and block them without second thought...
2) Carry on talking to them occassionally and hope they wont bring up meeting again...
3) Decide it's best to tell them straight that you are not attracted to them...
Just for the record i will go for (2) every time, If they do push for a meet, i take a deep breath and try and be tactful....
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4) Casually ask if they've ever been vaccinated against Hepatitis B...
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Or ask if they know Diane at the Gum clinic.... lol
Submission is giving your heart freely knowing what joy and pain will come of it...
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19 Sep 11, 12:29 PM
calmhands
UK, 2 yrs
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bohnanza wrote:
4) It's only a photo. It probably isn't accurate. Very few people photograph accurately. I have met many people from here and wondered if they put their profile photo up for a bet.
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Honestly a real LOL.
I would be tactful but honest and hope to keep the friendship if we had been talking and getting on.
I hate having my time wasted and therefore don't like wasting other people's time.
ch x
Bring me back to me..
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19 Sep 11, 12:31 PM
BoredDom2005
UK, 7 yrs
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gentlemusings wrote:
Or ask if they know Diane at the Gum clinic.... lol
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You know Diane too? Wow, small world...
If it leaks, plug it...
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19 Sep 11, 12:31 PM
gentlemusings
UK(M), 19 mths
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calmhands wrote:
bohnanza wrote:
4) It's only a photo. It probably isn't accurate. Very few people photograph accurately. I have met many people from here and wondered if they put their profile photo up for a bet.
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Honestly a real LOL.
I would be tactful but honest and hope to keep the friendship if we had been talking and getting on.
I hate having my time wasted and therefore don't like wasting other people's time.
ch x
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^^^ and this is the biggie for me too! Submission is giving your heart freely knowing what joy and pain will come of it...
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