D/s poly (6)

I am what I would describe as predominantly sub, I like the dynamics that go with it and revel in my position as a sub. However I have a Domme side, and I have had a few good experiences being in control from all levels.

I am curious to know how the D/s dynamics works for others when the sub has this Domme side to them?

How did it all come about, were you in the relationship already or were you like it already and how did that fit into your new relationship?

Sorry for the wording but not sure how else to put it all.

jxx

"Take me from this earth an endless night- this, the end of life. From the dark I feel your lips and taste your bloody kiss."

In the beginning god created man ... that was his first mistake ... everybody knows the lady should always come first
I haven't a particle of confidence in a man who has no redeeming petty vices ~ Mark Twaine

Edited 18 Sep 11, 9:41 PM by Incandescence

I mean the sub having a Dom/me who has control but said sub has a Dom/me top side to them so they play with a sub/ subs.

jxx

"Take me from this earth an endless night- this, the end of life. From the dark I feel your lips and taste your bloody kiss."

If the Dom/me has given their blessing for the sub to top, and there aren't any underlying issues, such as jealousy etc, then I can't see a problem. If they haven't given their blessing, then they don't have control.

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yes I know that, it is the same for the majority of things within D/s. I am also aware that all relationships are different and what works for one may not work for another.

I am looking for a bit more out of this though.

Were there issues with this type of situation?

Did you overcome them or not?

How did you overcome them?

How does the sub having or playing with a sub work within your relationship?

For any future relationship I have this is an area that I would like to explore. This is also something I will work out with said Dom/me myself.

I am just curious how it works for others....

jxx

"Take me from this earth an endless night- this, the end of life. From the dark I feel your lips and taste your bloody kiss."

It can work very well is the short answer.

Speaking as one who, for the most part, has always had more than one slave, I have learned that harems take on a life of their own, almost but not quite independent of me.

I have also learned (the hard way) that a harem's life can be chaotic and potentially divisive, or it can be ordered in ways that promote unity and a sense of common purpose — espirit de corps in place of envy; co-operation in place of jealousy.

What can I say? I prefer the latter and have found the simplest way to achieve it is to give the harem structure — a heirachy in which each is given a role that allows them to contribute to the good of the whole according to their needs, temperament and talents.

Boring, I know — basically just an exercise in everyday organisation and resource management. But it works!

My point is that such a heirachy implies the delegation and devolution of power. And who better to serve as a loyal lieutenant than a devoted submissive with a dominant streak?

You cannot run away from what is inside you — African proverb

Edited 19 Sep 11, 8:58 AM by ColdHarbour

Now this is what I was after, thank you.

When I finally get to the stage of a Dom and I living together though I would not want another sub living with us....I dont think. With the way my life has changed the last 18 months I never say never.

However in the heirachy of things I do not want to be at the bottom as this would not work for me these days.

jxx

"Take me from this earth an endless night- this, the end of life. From the dark I feel your lips and taste your bloody kiss."