long distance relationships. (96)

You cn only see each other at weekends cant you?

One or both must have stuff to do at weekends, so the other must do all the traveling, right?

Im guessing they generally dont work out.

I ask cus I fancy someone madly on here, but dont see how it could work out. Its a crush, at the moment, cant be anything more.

Has it worked for you?, how did it start and evolve?

If love is blind I need to find a cane

For me there has to come a time when you are together in teh flesh otherwise its not a relationship but a close, kink, "pen-friend" lol

Met up a few weeks later.

Nearly every Friday, leave work and a 211 mile drive to hers, up early Monday morning to get to the office for 8.30.

Talking on the phone for hours every night.

13 months after that first meet, and four years ago today, we got married. (er, and live in the same house now, obviously).

It isn't easy, but when it's right, it's worth it.

"Me? I'm all about the hugs.
And cruelty. Hugs and cruelty basically."

Who can say it'd work out in real life, even if you lived in the same town?

When I was single I wasn't rolling in cash by any means, but I always thought a hundred or so mile drive and the price of a hotel was fair, given the chance to maybe see a new town and meet a new friend (and usually play too).

Go for it; maybe it'll work, maybe it won't - but it'll be an experience.

"Me? I'm all about the hugs.
And cruelty. Hugs and cruelty basically."

Finding a compatible D/s relationship is hard enough - life's too short to let distance get in the way. (I'm referring to both being in the same country/UK, not sure about being abroad, although I know some achieve it).

If it's strong it will work, whatever the obstacles. My meet ups were never just at weekends, they were usually just as frequently as we could possibly arrange them. We all had busy lives. Both shared the travelling (I did most travelling in my second one, but that was my choice), or we met half way. Talking on the phone daily, texting, emailing etc helps to make up for the distance too.

Finding someone ideal for you on your doorstep is obviously going to be easier, but a LDR is not impossible, although it's probably better to have a long term possibility or goal of being together, in the same location, if that's what you want.

Put me on a pedestal, but be there to catch me if I fall.

Edited 15 Sep 11, 9:42 PM by Miss_OL

2880 miles away for 9 months! I hope so....

But, you'll never know yourself unless you try.

My ex wife, met a man who lived in another country, they travelled once a month to each other, they are now married and she moved there to be with him.

So yes it all depends on who it is and if it's working.

But I know from experience I would certainly need to spend some time in the company of the other early on, to see if we are compatible.

There's the truth. Sometimes feels like the UK's not big enough to find the sub of one's dreams!

I'm loud and I'm vulgar, and I wear the pants in the house because somebody's got to, but I am not a monster. I'm not.