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| 16 Sep 11, 12:50 PM Muzzlehatch UK(TN), 7 yrs   |
You've been going to the wrong munch!
Owner of The Croppery Dungeon and Breakfast. Organises The St Leonards munch. | ||
| 16 Sep 11, 1:32 PM SheilaBlyge UK(S), 4 yrs  |
Yup... the best munch I did go to was York Munch, at their Christmas munch there was a riotous game of Musical Spanks. ^^ | ||
| 16 Sep 11, 1:46 PM bohnanza UK(FK), 12 yrs |
I have been to very few munches at which people have done BDSM stuff. To me a munch is a place devoid of play, such that new people only have one thing to worry about when attending, walking into a room full of strangers. The nothing in common argument is slightly silly because you don't know if you have nothing in common with them until you speak to them. Similarly you may not have anything in common with them, but they may be interesting people to talk to. Rohypnol means never having to say "Would you like another coffee?". | ||
| 16 Sep 11, 1:50 PM Elysium UK(EH), 5 yrs |
I've been to lots. What stops me going now is that I find them....boring.... No offence to the people that go. I find most group social situations boring. I prefer spending my time in one on one conversations. Let's televise and broadcast the raping of kings. | ||
| 16 Sep 11, 2:09 PM redridingass UK(DH), 9 mths |
Never been. No idea what to expect or whether it would be ok to go alone. Red | ||
| 16 Sep 11, 2:14 PM Aristaeus UK(RG), 2 yrs |
I love going to my local Munch, catching up with friends, having a beer. Never been to an event, attending my first one at the end of tis month. Wish me luck. A. | ||
| 16 Sep 11, 2:16 PM Richtea UK(BN), 2 yrs  |
One reason for me,(there are others )is; I'm partially deaf, I'm okay talking with a couple of people face to face, but if it's a largish group with background noise I can barely make out the odd word, as it's very difficult to join in I tend to withdraw into myself and I end up in the corner on my tod, looking to quietly leave as soon as.
"Me and Kevin, we're just not the same" | ||
| 16 Sep 11, 2:35 PM Barb_Dwyer UK(ME), 7 yrs |
Cliques & most of the above plus I do not drive and the nearest one to me is 30 minutes by train DON'T MAKE ME USE UPPERCASE! | ||
| 16 Sep 11, 2:52 PM canius_femina UK(M), 13 mths |
My main reason for not going is shift work for both myself & Master, W/we tend to have shifts that dont clash & as a result often have time off on different days.
The FAB Manchester Munch is ideal being on a Saturday, but then family commitments arise & throws that off kilter as well. But W/we do intend to do more once things are established | ||
| 16 Sep 11, 3:15 PM Top_Class UK(GU), 2 yrs |
The concept of munching is a great one, the perfect cross-over between the clubby play-spaces for people active in the scene and the quintessentially peculiar environment of 'online' because those who are new and serious about being known in the community have a quiet social way of introducing themselves as a real person without doing anything other than popping along for a chit-chat at a local venue. Where the munch-concept has inadequacies is if a 'pub' isn't perceived as a pleasant or convenient place for socialising in terms of friendships (or maybe more  ).For me, pubs are not in my repertoire of locales. The munches I've been to have been in pubs and neither the munch nor the pub has offered a compelling reason to enjoy the other any more. As @SheilaBlyge said, when the only common denominator is kink it's not enough for anything other than the smallest of small-talk (while trying not to be spotted looking at your watch). To enjoy company and chat and perceive at least the possibility of meeting someone to get on with, the overlaps of interests and life-experience have to be more extensive, so more variation in the setting or venue for a munch would be a good initiator for that. A munch held in an art gallery's café; a munch at a sports club; a munch while strolling through the countryside are the sort of ideas which widen and change a munch's appeal to different groups of people and away from what pubs seem to me to be - dingy venues for unhealthy people who like football a lot. "Fork handles?" "No, not 'fork handles' ... four candles." |
