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on Sat 12 Feb 05, 12:37 AM to FreeKinker's blog.
As a subbie, it is important to decide to what degree and in what manner you want to be 'enslaved'. The old adage, 'One man's meat is another man's poison' comes to mind when I recall the very different style of Doms I talked to before I met Sir Mike my partner, lover and Master. To be honest, some sounded positively scary and clearly wanted someone to torture or degrade in the vilest ways.
I am very aware, remembering the days when I was a depressive, that I easily found myself in controlling and abusive relationships and that if I had been aware of my sub side then, it could have ended very badly. I think there is an awfully big difference between being submissive and being a helpless animal. A sub who has deep feelings of inadequacy or low-self esteem, might allow things to go far further than they would wish and though as a sub, I allow my Master to push my limits, He would never do anything dangerous or damaging either mentally or physically. As much as in the vanilla world, subs need to be cautious as there are sadists, psychopaths and unstable minds out there and choosing a Master is as important as choosing a spouse or lifetime partner!
I CHOOSE to surrender my free will but not my self-respect, and though I allow myself to be spanked, teased etc would draw the line at anything that was robbing me of my value as a person and as a woman. Behind all the kneeling, submitting and serving, I have, and always will have, my dignity.
My wish for all the subs out there is to always remember that you were created as unique and special human beings, every one of us has value, every one deserves respect and basic kindness. Have fun, but have safe and honest fun, don't be untrue to your hearts, don't compromise on what you feel is right just to hold onto a relationship that may be harmful or degrading, serve your true Masters with love and respect but never forget to love and respect yourself too!
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| 12 Feb 05, 6:59 AM Fallow UK, 7 yrs |
I CHOOSE to surrender my free will but not my self-respect, [/quote] I totally agree with you, it must be a minefield trying to find fun safely. We all need to feel valued for who we are not what we will do. I count myself as very lucky to have a partner who will treat me with respect and still satisfy my desire to be sub. |
