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However that still leaves you with a problem. I would tend to look at it from an alternative view, as has been suggested, have you considered home schooling? There will be a home schooling group in your town, why not contact them and see if they have anything to offer?

From what you say it would seem that other avenues have been exhausted but what about his aspirations and expectations for his future? Does he want to learn to drive, own a car, have holidays, a home, furniture and stuff? My guess would be yes but how is he expecting to get these without education? Does he know? Have things got so bad that reasoned conversation has gone out of the window, could his brother talk to him about life expectations?

I would stop short of removing food as it could be seen as reglect/abuse, however he doesnt have to eat the same as you do. I can understand that you are at the end of your tether, its hard sometimes to see an end to a problem.

I wouldn't with the food, because then it could become a "neglect" issue. You could find yourself in a world of trouble.

I did once read in a book that some people take everything away out of the child's room, leaving the mattress, a blanket one pair of disliked clothes and one pair of disliked shoes. The child gets stable food, and that is it. They have to "earn" back their things, and evidently it works a treat.

I couldn't do it. Mainly because, when I was reading about it, I knew the my DS is exactly like me and I know that wouldn't work with me. It would have instilled a quiet rage and the end result would have been not the desired one.

You must know what might work with him. You said you might "have to go to court". You do realise that you would go to jail? There are two cases which were in the papers of mothers in jail for several months. Find those cases on the internet and show him.....that is what I did. ETA: It did influence him.

If he hates it that badly, speak to the LEA and claim school phobia and find him another school, or home educate. I home educated (both willingly & unwillingly due to his disability) for a while. It actually does work very well if the child buys into it.

I'll go back and read the responses now.

You didnt say how old he is. If he is old enough to "fight" for the right school, it is worth it. Mine went from having to peel his hands off the doorframe to get him nto the car and regular exclusions (in the wrong school) to being top of his class with "ego medals" (he calls them) for his jumper starting his GCSE's. By "fight", I mean the LEA has the legal responsibility to educate him. If you take him to school every morning, then he sits outside the school and doesnt go in, they would find him a different school or educate him somehow, because that is the law.

ETA: I see his age now. Could he finish his GCSE"s at home? Would he do that? Does he have a statement then, if he is at a SEN school? If he does, there should have been a second choice of school, and at the review date you can discuss it. If they just changed schools to keep him "included", I would request an "assessment of special educational needs" from your LEA. You send it yourself to your local LEA head office with clear explanation/documentation of why you think he needs assessed. The LEA is legally obligated to carry out an assessment (though they do sometime try and brush you off at first). SEN is ANY need which is not "normal" - ie also gifted children or dyslexia, etc. And LEA's have the tendancy to send difficult children to behavioural schools without even assessing them. bad news. Home education is better than that, said a private Ed Psych to us. End ETA.

This is really abbreviated, and some of the school issues are not clearly put, but you might not be interested anyway. If you want to drop me a PM, I will be happy to help you any way I can and link you to the pertinent government publications and education support groups who can give you the most up-to-date information.

Good luck

He has been told about the consquences of his actions and what might happen, so he does know,he has been to three schools including two of the schools exclusion sights he is not allowed to be in main stream school he lost that right. He has hardly been to school whilst with his dad over two and a half years and in the six seven months he has been with me, its now a constant battle, I will get in touch with the lea and see for myself what they have to say.

thankyou

Iv really no idea, butlike I say, you've tried everything else, so why not?