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| MissLioness |
on Wed 7 Sep 11, 12:33 PM to MissLioness's blog.
Do I or dont I post this, im not sure. So im going to and see what happens.
Son wont go to school, well the version of school he has been offered due to the fact his dad would never make him go when son lived with him, since then son has been kicked out of his dads and is living with me.
Problem is, now I have that problem. He refuses to go to school, well the schooling he has been offered. As you can probably tell this has been on going for a long time and it is now crunch time.
So I have thought about this option as a last resort, no school no food, after all no work, no money, no food. so do I or dont I? No food, no electric, no water, no washing blah etc etc till he gets of his backside and goes to school. The reality of it is, if the education board see fit,they could and would send me to court and well whatever they decide to do, would and could be impounded on me rather than said son. there is only so much a parent can do to make a child of a certain age and mentality go to school, without brute force and even then a parent can get into trouble for that. I have already tried the available option's to me before you ask.
| 7 Sep 11, 12:38 PM summberblues UK(LS), 7 yrs |
Am sure someone will pipe up and say tell the school social services etc etc. But I think you should, sounds like he needs to learn that his actions do and will result in certain consequences, and that going to school and working also have consequences. | |
| 7 Sep 11, 12:46 PM MissLioness UK(LS), 5 yrs |
Thankyou for your comment much appreciate as yet not made a final decision just wondered what others thought, dont get me wrong he will be able to have water lol to drink im not that mean rofl. x | |
| 7 Sep 11, 12:49 PM Ro_Laren UK(S), 3 yrs |
How about home schooling? At least it would reduce the threat of legal action until you can sort out what's wrong. | |
| 7 Sep 11, 12:51 PM MissLioness UK(LS), 5 yrs |
he is just stubborn and beleive me, he has had enough chances to sort and mediate with both myself and school and also mentors doctor and board of governers. As I said it is last chance saloon and the door can only swing one way now. | |
| 7 Sep 11, 1:02 PM prettyPETunia UK(WS), 4 yrs |
How old is he and why wont he go? Excuse me, im thick | |
| 7 Sep 11, 1:03 PM SirOpenSource UK(E), 6 yrs    |
You are not wrong in withdrawing privileges but the question is always at what level? Technically to deprive of food could be classed as neglect but to deprive him of non-essential food items and amusements etc until he approaches you to talk about it may work. [I accept I do not know your son or your family circumstances fully] SOS The Titter group - for when you don't feel too serious. | |
| 7 Sep 11, 1:12 PM sub55y UK(HA), 15 mths |
The reason for his non attendance needs to be established as he could be subject to bullying or be a school phobic,without knowing all the facts its hard to say,but he may well require help. | |
| 7 Sep 11, 1:13 PM Shypeachybottom UK, 20 mths |
Agreed with @SirOpenSource - I would focus on restricting/withdrawing privileges and things he enjoys rather than necessities like food. So things like - mobile phone - iPod - Sky subscription - other subscriptions or membership of any clubs (although if he is a member of a sports club I would leave that til the end) - removing fancy trainers/clothers he has - any other gadgets - time on computer playing games - Xbox/Wii/video games As @SirOpenSource says, we don't know your circumstances so you know your situation best. Also, how old is he? It is key to find out *why* he doesn't want to go - is it laziness? can't be arse-dness? or is it not cool? or has he just got into this habit? or is he embarassed because he has fallen behind (in which case you might look at catch-up lessons?)? or has he been bullied? or is he just not good academically? Depending on his age, have you considered looking for employment or apprenticeship schemes - would he be better at that? Last thought, above - restricting/withdrawing things - is the stick approach - how would he respond to some carrot? so if he goes to school and does okay, he get some treats? There's a somebody I'm longing to see, I hope that he turns out to be, someone to watch over me Edited 7 Sep 11, 1:14 PM by Shypeachybottom | |
| 7 Sep 11, 1:22 PM MissLioness UK(LS), 5 yrs |
I have taken this decision very seriously and knowing my son, he will give in first. He likes his food too much, he has no prized posession's apart from clothes, that I can take away from him, he only came to me with the clothes on his back and I had to find a way to purchase more. So in reality that would not be an option. Believe me I have thought long and hard and tried many avenues already including social service, but because he has a roof over his head they are not willing to get involved. He has anger management problems because of his father. So I am limited to what I can do myself, he is already receiving help with that. As a very concerned parent, I do not take decisions lightly but even his refusel to go, is going to now cause me and my other son possible hardship, question is where is the cut off line for protection for myself and other son? | |
| 7 Sep 11, 1:23 PM MissLioness UK(LS), 5 yrs |
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