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| Angela688 |
on Sat 3 Sep 11, 12:53 PM to Angela688's blog.
I know this is a contentious issue for many on here that are married, collared and single......
I know there are always going to be people who are going to cheat on their partners and that is true of every part of society...just like there are going to be tall people or short people everywhere (yes this is meant to be light hearted).
I am talking about the many on here who are married with vanilla partners and they are looking for kinky partners to play with. They are looking because they have spoke to their vanilla partners about their desires and have been rejected or they know they will be treated with contempt and disgust if they try to talk about it. They have then thought things through and understand the implications and have decided they want to play.......
The married ones take on many different forms...some are people that have come to realise late in life that they have a bent, whilst others have married knowing this and so do their vanilla partners and they have given their blessing to find a kink play partner and there are many others in between.
If you look at many of the profiles on here a lot of them read that they are into poly relationships or threesomes.....so why are we open minded about this?
I know of a sub who's mistress is a collared sub of a Dom.....there are many Dom/mes who have numerous subs and subs who have numerous Dom/mes. Many switches have a Dom and a sub, whilst one I know of also has a maid.
We are all into kink in one form or another and therefore we are suppose to have open minds .......we don't all understand and agree with each other's kink but we don't send malicious memos having a go about each other's kink so why send them to the married ones!!!!
I understand many don't state on their profiles that they are married because of the malicious memos they get...... So are we creating some of the issues our selves........?
I believe we should all be tolerant of each other and those that are married say so on their profiles to avoid confusion......let our open minds extend to everyone and if you don't agree with something on someone's profile then walk on by and go to someone's that you do agree with......lets avoid all the nasty remarks.....we all know they hurt on some level......
| 3 Sep 11, 1:04 PM jenevieve UK(CH), 4 yrs |
I tend to find that I still get approached by the married ones despite having put in my profile that I am not interested in playing with married people. I suspect that I am not alone in this and while I can understand that they may have permission etc its not for me but some are very persistent. So its not really a surprise that they get a bad name. No matter how you try you just can't fix stupid! | |
| 3 Sep 11, 1:07 PM angellover UK(CM), 3 yrs |
Nice blog.... Thank you. I know (holds hands up) I am guilty in taking the 'P' with some in the chat rooms, especily about their names, but never in memos. I agree we should be more tolerant and treat people as individuals as I do try to do, but one thing I personally respect and expect is honesty.
The highest fences we have to climb, are those we have built within our mind | |
| 3 Sep 11, 1:13 PM Janie_0 UK(G), 8 yrs |
I thought there was a huge difference between poly and cheating on your partner. | |
| 3 Sep 11, 1:30 PM Litany UK(E), 11 yrs |
maybe some people want to have a full relationship , maybe get married themselves , and not be the occasional thing of a already married person...yes I know its a simplistic view, and I dont condemm any that are married and are looking for a person to indulge there desires. "Litany, a poncy show-off with wit, a camera, and his own teeth *swoon*"
Fen "You have some strange taste in music"
Me "If I didn't, I wouldn't be half as interesting" | |
| 3 Sep 11, 1:40 PM Kali_Ma UK(B), 5 yrs |
I'm married. Mr KM has no particular interest in the scene, but he's met some of my friends off here, has been to a munch or two and has been seen on occasion just to prove he exists! He's cool with me doing 'my thing', we've learnt that subscribing to the societal norm of what a marriage should be doesn't particularly work for us. So we make our marriage work our way - I think more people should do this, provided it's done with full knowledge, lots of communication, and full consent. 'I heard she's a bit of a thug' Mister Bear. | |
| 3 Sep 11, 1:43 PM prettyPETunia UK(WS), 4 yrs |
If they are dishonest with their partner, they sure as hell aint gonna be honest with anyone else. Generally. They may show a desire to leave but I think they should be more open with their partners first and decide whether they should make a new go of it or leave before involving aand probably dissappointing a complete stranger Excuse me, im thick | |
| 3 Sep 11, 1:46 PM StickyNote 10 mths |
Concur. It is a matter of deceit v honesty for me. I personally have no problem with married kinkers wanting to find someone to play with if the little woman/man is aware, and the sub/dom/domme/etc is aware. Anything else is simply lying, and vanilla or kinky, in my eyes thats a huge no-no. Fuck-a-doodle-doo! Edited 3 Sep 11, 1:49 PM by StickyNote | |
| 3 Sep 11, 2:49 PM northern_light UK, 7 yrs |
This is pretty much how we work too, although he has never accompanied me to a club or munch because he isnt in the least bit interested. He has met several of my scene friends and gets on very well with my sub. Not a "normal" marriage at all, however it works for us. We have been married for 23 years and for 12 of those I have been exploring this lifestyle. He always knows where I am and who am am with and in the past was my safe call. I do agree that it can work as long as there is lots of communication. "Absinthe is the aphrodisiac of the self. The green fairy who lives in the Absinthe wants your soul." ~Dracula by Bram Stoker | |
| 3 Sep 11, 2:49 PM Angela688 UK(SG), 16 mths |
I have found some men in general can be very persistant, married or not......I'm sure we all have stories we can tell..... Live for today, for tomorrow is promised to no-one. | |
| 3 Sep 11, 2:50 PM J_o_sh UK, 4 yrs |
A mate of mine is married with a wife who has no awareness of his interest in BDSM ( not up to me to judge him) He is totally up front about this but seems to have no problem attracting the ladies. I think you might be surprised at how many women have stated absolutely no married men in their profile but actually have met and scened with him, it's a constant surprise to me anyway.
...the fkr won't tell me his secret though I think my point is that whilst your profile may be very genuine, a lot aren't.
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